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Receiving Gifts Presents and physical tokens of affection move you. It's the fact that someone is thinking about you enough to give you something that moves you. The objects are of secondary importance to the relationship and sentiment with which they were intended.
Quality Time This can be expressed either through those intimate tête-à -tête discussions or via doing things together.
Acts of Service You prefer to show your love through favors and chores and doing things for others. You feel put-upon and unappreciated when your efforts are taken for granted.
Physical Touch
You want to give and/or receive affection physically. This may or may not center on sex.
Words of Affirmation
You need to hear praise to know you are loved, and you may also prefer to express your affection verbally. Negative comments cut right to the bone. You want to hear that you're loved and how much and why.
For me, it would be acts of service. That is how I best "communicate". I respond most when people do things for me, and I do things for them to show my love for them.
Is it conceivable though, that some people may communicate exclusively in only one of these languages?
If any, quality time and gifts would follow, but I consider gifts to partly fall under acts of service. "Because I know how much you like this, I wanted to tell you what I saw today (and maybe, "...I just had to pick it up!")
My room mate loves cryptograms--I like them okay, but I like more of a variety of puzzles. I happened to see a book of them while out getting my Edy's fruit bars. Had I not forgotten my bank card, I might have gotten it for her anyhow. It's a little thing, but it's something I know she would enjoy temporarily.
Is it conceivable though, that some people may communicate exclusively in only one of these languages?
If any, quality time and gifts would follow, but I consider gifts to partly fall under acts of service. "Because I know how much you like this, I wanted to tell you what I saw today (and maybe, "...I just had to pick it up!")
My room mate loves cryptograms--I like them okay, but I like more of a variety of puzzles. I happened to see a book of them while out getting my Edy's fruit bars. Had I not forgotten my bank card, I might have gotten it for her anyhow. It's a little thing, but it's something I know she would enjoy temporarily.
Maybe, but I don't think any one person can fall into only category. They may show less ratings on the other particular 4, but unless they have some emotional issue, I don't think I can see a normal person only communicating in just one of these languages.
For your example: Your gift would be "Service", followed by "Quality Time" if you handed it directly to her as you would be spending time with her and creating a memory.
You can communicate in one language at a point in time though (Your example, but just dropping it off in her mailbox instead), but not throughout your entire life.
The reason is because humans crave love. It is a drug and once you had a taste of it, you are forever hooked
Is it conceivable though, that some people may communicate exclusively in only one of these languages?
Maybe, but I think that it would not be a good thing in building relationships. Most people need a combination of those, and if you were with someone that only did one thing (For instance, gave gifts) but never spent time with you, touched you, do things with you, told you they loved you, it probably would feel rather incomplete. I personally would hate it if someone told me they loved me and then had no actions to back it up.
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