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Old 10-06-2009, 05:18 PM
 
Location: Silicon Valley
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Default Why do people realize what they had when its gone or too late?

Going out on a limb because I never like to be the one starting a thread, but I couldn't resist here. Just one of those kind of days that I am having.

Men & Women: Why do you (not you personally) not realize what you had until you lost it?

Curious to see what you all think and hoping for candid answers.
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Old 10-06-2009, 05:28 PM
 
Location: The cupboard under the sink
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sometimes you know what you've got, and you just can't keep it.

i'm not sure which is worse !
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Old 10-06-2009, 05:31 PM
 
Location: Northeastern WI
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I dont miss what 'might' have been from 15 years ago because if it was meant to be, it would have been. He was a good guy and the only one my kids all really liked (one that I actually got seriously involved with), but I just didnt feel like I would have been good enough for him. Sure, in one way, we all still talk about him, but its been 15 years. We all move on.
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Old 10-06-2009, 05:34 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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Because as the old saying goes, hindsight is always 20/20.
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Old 10-06-2009, 06:11 PM
 
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Men & Women: Why do you (not you personally) not realize what you had until you lost it?
Because when you have it, it's easy to take it for granted. It's only after it's gone that you come to appreciate what it was you had.
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Old 10-06-2009, 06:27 PM
 
Location: Georgia
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Because as the old saying goes, hindsight is always 20/20.
So true! I always kick myself when I think about 3 1/2 years ago when I broke up with my first true love. I felt like I was "missing out" since he was the only boyfriend I'd ever really had and I wanted to experience more life before committing for the long haul (our relationship was definitely serious). In a way I'm glad I've had the dating experiences that I have the past 3+ years, but at the same time, sometimes I also look back and think "Man I really miss him..." He was by far one of the greatest guys I've ever met and probably ever will meet.

But you live and you learn and you move on.
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Old 10-06-2009, 06:32 PM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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I think a lot of people get to preoccupied with what they don't have, rather than be thankful for what they do have. They obsess over chasing material possessions, promotions, or envying what other people have. Never realizing that they are blessed with what they have if they'd only take notice. It's not until it's gone that they fnally notice.
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Old 10-06-2009, 06:57 PM
 
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sometimes you know what you've got, and you just can't keep it.
Exactly!!!! I have had this problem so much so that I had to make an adjustment in my thinking.

I truly believe that LIFE ITSELF is intelligent and some how it's trying to teach you to live in a "sweet spot." Taking something for granted is just as bad as obsessively hoarding over something.


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Old 10-06-2009, 07:01 PM
 
Location: Pa
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So true! I always kick myself when I think about 3 1/2 years ago when I broke up with my first true love. I felt like I was "missing out" since he was the only boyfriend I'd ever really had and I wanted to experience more life before committing for the long haul (our relationship was definitely serious). In a way I'm glad I've had the dating experiences that I have the past 3+ years, but at the same time, sometimes I also look back and think "Man I really miss him..." He was by far one of the greatest guys I've ever met and probably ever will meet.

But you live and you learn and you move on.
Yeah no kidding...I think "YOU and ME baby are nothing but Mammals We want and Love and look back..Yet yes we want better."
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Old 10-06-2009, 07:15 PM
 
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I think a lot of people get to preoccupied with what they don't have, rather than be thankful for what they do have. They obsess over chasing material possessions, promotions, or envying what other people have. Never realizing that they are blessed with what they have if they'd only take notice. It's not until it's gone that they fnally notice.
A lot of people become convinced they can do better or that they deserve better. Part of the problem is our society is always sending the message that you deserve the very best and should never have to settle. So people look at the person they're with and become convinced that they've settled. It's only afterward that they realize they didn't settle and what they was the perfect person out there waiting for them was in truth just a fantasy.
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