Married women or women in serious relationships do you ever think about other men?? (sex, attractive)

[Braunwyn]

It has been a few years, but I've crushed on a few guys at work, and previously in grad school. Sex didn't come to mind, but intimacy did. Or more accurately, passionate appreciation founded upon my idealizing. Acting on anything as a married woman? No way.

[JBT1980]

Originally Posted by Braunwyn

It has been a few years, but I've crushed on a few guys at work, and previously in grad school. Sex didn't come to mind, but intimacy did. Or more accurately, passionate appreciation founded upon my idealizing. Acting on anything as a married woman? No way.

Thats almost worse for a married women to be mentally passionate with other men,dont you think??

[crbcrbrgv]

Originally Posted by JBT1980

But does it end at oh i see a attractive person or do you ever think what it might be like to be initmate with that person?

Ha. Attached women don't think about how it would be to get "intimate" with a hot stranger. They think about how it would be to get their clothes thrown off, feet thrown behind their ears and, well I'll stop right there.

[jessica johnson]

Originally Posted by JBT1980

Not that you would ever cheat but when you see a cute guy walkign down the street or maybe your husband or boyfriends friend is cute do u ever think about what it might be like to have sex with them or do you just see a attractive person and thast the end of it??

Just wink your eye and keep walking. It's not worth losing your man over somebody who probably just look fine on the outside. Hey that other man probably don't have what your man got!

[JBT1980]

Originally Posted by crbcrbrgv

Ha. Attached women don't think about how it would be to get "intimate" with a hot stranger. They think about how it would be to get their clothes thrown off, feet thrown behind their ears and, well I'll stop right there.

hahaha

Any Ladies wont to admit to this??

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by JBT1980

Thats almost worse for a married women to be mentally passionate with other men,dont you think??

Perhaps. There is no other way for me to be passionate about a person. Don't get me wrong, I can appreciate a fine physique, but for about two seconds, and it will pass without recall most of the time. If a close colleague impresses me with his skills I'll initially become pre-occupied. I do share my feelings with my dh, but it doesn't translate to sex with that person. It couldn't. Some of them are just too funny looking. I suppose it's more of a geek crush.

[MonaLisaVito]

Originally Posted by crbcrbrgv

Ha. Attached women don't think about how it would be to get "intimate" with a hot stranger. They think about how it would be to get their clothes thrown off, feet thrown behind their ears and, well I'll stop right there.

[JBT1980]

Originally Posted by Braunwyn

Perhaps. There is no other way for me to be passionate about a person. Don't get me wrong, I can appreciate a fine physique, but for about two seconds, and it will pass without recall most of the time. If a close colleague impresses me with his skills I'll initially become pre-occupied. I do share my feelings with my dh, but it doesn't translate to sex with that person. It couldn't. Some of them are just too funny looking. I suppose it's more of a geek crush.

I undertsand and i know its harmless with you i just think its dangerous especially for allot of women who are emotional creatures to get close to another man mentally..it seems dangerous..

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by JBT1980

I undertsand and i know its harmless with you i just think its dangerous especially for allot of women who are emotional creatures to get close to another man mentally..it seems dangerous..

What can you do, tho? Providing you don't reside in a depressed region, where most of the people you come across generally suck, the issue will surface. There are a lot of fantastic people out there who are beautiful in so many ways. We'll take note, appreciate, etc, but that should have nothing to do with our commitments, imo. I figure, if a person wants/decides to cheat s/he'll do so and it has little do with who they are attracted to.

[GypsySoul22]

Is all this 'okay' for a man to do?
I don't see why women have to walk around with blinkers.

No one said let's run off with the handsome guy down the block and 'do it.' We may think about it, speculate 'what it may be like' (don't GUYS do this too?) but that is just fantasy. What's wrong with a little daydreaming? Is that 'cheating?" I think not...

Everyone likes to dream...

Why do you think ROMANCE novels are so popular?

Some of us have not 'been with' a lot of people physically and may just wonder... It doesn't mean we are going to DO IT, maybe it's nice to just 'think.'