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JBT1980 · 10-07-2009, 01:10 PM

Not that you would ever cheat but when you see a cute guy walkign down the street or maybe your husband or boyfriends friend is cute do u ever think about what it might be like to have sex with them or do you just see a attractive person and thast the end of it??

GypsySoul22 · 10-07-2009, 01:29 PM

Well, you know the saying, "You've captured my heart my dear but not my eyes."

Married doesn't mean dead. We can still be attracted to other people. Such is the way the human is wired.

NOEM1226 · 10-07-2009, 01:37 PM

I can honestly say I might think "wow, what a good looking guy/girl". I notice people of both sexes who just happen to be blessed with extreme good looks, but now that you asked- I sat and thought about and not once since I have been married have my thoughts gone beyond that simple statement. I think this is a good thing!

I don't want to even think about being with anyone else.

seeniorita · 10-07-2009, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by JBT1980

Not that you would ever cheat but when you see a cute guy walkign down the street or maybe your husband or boyfriends friend is cute do u ever think about what it might be like to have sex with them or do you just see a attractive person and thast the end of it??

Of course, I am married...not dead! I can certainly appreciate, oggle, let out an occassional "DAMN" at an attractive man without it going any further.

JBT1980 · 10-07-2009, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by GypsySoul22

Well, you know the saying, "You've captured my heart my dear but not my eyes."

Married doesn't mean dead. We can still be attracted to other people. Such is the way the human is wired.

But does it end at oh i see a attractive person or do you ever think what it might be like to be initmate with that person?

Mr.Cat · 10-07-2009, 01:39 PM

Specify happy or unhappy?

VBmom · 10-07-2009, 01:48 PM

I certianly look, but I don't think about having sex with someone else. I don't consider that cheating either. I think an active imagination is a good thing. I just really, really like my husband. I have also been through a bad marriage and I know I have a good thing going now. Guess that keeps my mind from wandering off.

2mares · 10-07-2009, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by JBT1980

Not that you would ever cheat but when you see a cute guy walkign down the street or maybe your husband or boyfriends friend is cute do u ever think about what it might be like to have sex with them or do you just see a attractive person and thast the end of it??

Yes. I think about it. Maybe conjure up a fantasy or two, then thats the end of it.

GypsySoul22 · 10-07-2009, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by JBT1980

But does it end at oh i see a attractive person or do you ever think what it might be like to be initmate with that person?

Um, I plead the Fifth.

vicket · 10-07-2009, 02:01 PM

I don't think it's cheating to look (or have a fantasy) about an attractive person, but, for me it doesn't ever cross over into wanting to actually touch them. Not that I am stopping anything- it just doesn't happen that way.
Even in fantasies, it always seems to be with a nameless, faceless person.

Love- is more about the 'who'
Sex- is more about the 'what'.

For me anyway. I think men might be wired differently.