How much DO people change? (young, college, personalities, divorced)

[Gplex]

People don't change over night. But they can change. Every day you wake up, you are a different person then you where yesterday.

[Katlakat]

Originally Posted by pitt_transplant

We always talk about how people won't change...But if I really think back about myself...I sure have in a lot of ways. Especially with relationships.

So when we have these situations where it is said "They won't change" I have to ask myself :"Well why not? I have. Why won't they or why will they?"

I know most people do keep doing the same thing...But then I think of people who were totally crazy party heads through teens and 20 and in the 40's they own a business, stopped the skanking, stopped with drugs etc....

I know I can't be the only changer! LOL

But what do you think makes a person change or stay stuck in current operations?

Maturity. We come to a point where perhaps the "old way" no longer gets the response we desire, or....we no longer desire that particular response, so we discontinue that habit. With practice, you can change many things in your life, as long as you stick to it and become committed to the idea. I've changed a lot since I was in my early 20's. Some of my old friends I have bumped into since moving back home do not even recognize me. That means I have carried my changes physically as well as internally.

As far as personality goes, a talker, manipulator, gossiper, can become a silent and quiet thinker if they want to. Anything's possible.

[Rcm58]

The most significant changes I've seen in people are generally brought on by divorce or death of a spouse.

[gigalove]

I believe that a "real change" does rarely happen. We are almost always the same inside and what changes is our outside. If somebody is wicked, he will always remain wicked even if he does charity and one day, his true self will emerge.

[irwin2012]

Change does occur, but in part because you want it to happen. Relationship patterns are the toughest, because many people (men and women) can't be critical of themselves, nor can they accept criticism from other people. As a result, they keep making the same dating mistakes over and over. We need to accept criticism in order to grow.

[robertpolyglot]

People don't change much AT ALL. Only when they're humbled. Sometimes, not even then.

[1208]

Only a lousy or hopeless person thinks that people are incapable of change

[robertpolyglot]

Originally Posted by 1208

Only a lousy or hopeless person thinks that people are incapable of change

How about people who "track" people over a long period of time, and I'm not talking "stalking?" Reality is not often pleasant.

[theoldnorthstate]

Generally speaking people do not change character wise and will revert to type under stress. IMO

They may change the veneer, behavior, ways of dealing with things, and all these changes may be to the good though.

[1208]

Plenty of people don't change, I will agree with you on that. I think they tend to be the ones who think that people can't change.