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For me, the answer is yes.... I can find pleasurable company with people who do not make my spouse feel insecure (as I said, there have only been a few). I do have a lot of attractive male friends (e.g. neighbors, coworkers) and there is no problem for my hubby. But I'm not really that physically attracted to other men.... I get all I need at home.
For the average person there are just not that many opportunities to meet and befriend people that are going to be as nice, interesting and stimulating as the three men I am talking about. So the option of moving on to other friends for companionship is not really an option. These other friends are kind of boring in comparison.
Also I did not say the attraction was mostly physical, instead it is just great personal chemistry. Almost like the best female friends many women have.
Also I did not say the attraction was mostly physical, instead it is just great personal chemistry. Almost like the best female friends many women have.
I understand having great-looking guys as friends. As I said, I have quite a few and my hubby is fine with it. I work in a male-dominated industry (engineering sales) and interact with attractive men every day from all over the world.... This statement from you made me think you were referring to something different....
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Nothing has happened so far and I do not expect it will, but I am tempted. You can tell the attraction is mutual..
"I keep a close watch on this heart of mine
I keep my eyes wide open all the time
I keep the ends out for the tie that binds
Because you're mine, I walk the line"
Why tempt yourself. How would you feel watching your husband walk out the door. If I didn't want to lose my husband, I would put it in my head right now that "NOTHING IS going to happen" - not "probably" but NOTHING. Then, maybe they won't seem so attractive and interesting.
As a married woman I would be lying if I said there were not men I run into that were very attractive. I find a couple guys I know to be very attractive physically, mentally, personally and spiritually. I am just attracted to them. But I am happily married.
What should I do about my desire to be with these men and spend time with them. When I see them and talk the chemistry is so strong and I feel good. I feel like we could talk for hours. I feel just like I did when I was single and dating and found someone I thought would be Mr. Right.
Nothing has happened so far and I do not expect it will, but I am tempted. You can tell the attraction is mutual.
What have you done when you find someone you are so attracted to? Do you try to avoid them?
I really don't have these problems, but I would strongly advise you to stay the hell away. This is a tragedy waiting to happen.
Also I did not say the attraction was mostly physical, instead it is just great personal chemistry. Almost like the best female friends many women have.
But you said you were tempted and there was a mutual attraction? Don't fool yourself, it's NOT like having great female friends and it sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Thrice
As a married woman I would be lying if I said there were not men I run into that were very attractive. I find a couple guys I know to be very attractive physically, mentally, personally and spiritually. I am just attracted to them. But I am happily married.
What should I do about my desire to be with these men and spend time with them. When I see them and talk the chemistry is so strong and I feel good. I feel like we could talk for hours. I feel just like I did when I was single and dating and found someone I thought would be Mr. Right.
Nothing has happened so far and I do not expect it will, but I am tempted. You can tell the attraction is mutual.
What have you done when you find someone you are so attracted to? Do you try to avoid them?
Maybe marriage isnt for you...You say theyres 3 of these guys so you obviously get easily attracted to many people who are somewhat interesting and attractive maybe your just a nomad and need to be with allot of men...
Maybe marriage isnt for you...You say theyres 3 of these guys so you obviously get easily attracted to many people who are somewhat interesting and attractive maybe your just a nomad and need to be with allot of men...
Eh, there's a difference between having a desire and acting on it. Surely--if they weren't--I would have killed someone by now.
What have you done when you find someone you are so attracted to? Do you try to avoid them?
Yes.
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