What to do with a non-responsive ex?

[ferretkona]

Originally Posted by Shadow Dude

She broke up with me because she said 'She just didn't want to be in a relationship anymore' now I still believe that was true, but I also think she was just trying to let me down easy.

Women usually do not break it off unless they already have a new guy. When they say they do not want to be in a relationship, it usually only means not with you. If you are not getting anything out of the relationship it is over.
Move on!

[Eresh]

A lot of times when a couple splits up and trying the "we can still be friends" thing it's because one still has hope of working things out, and the other is feeing responsible (guilty) for the hurt feelings. It's better to just let it die and let both parties move on before attempting to "just be friends".
I agree with the others that you should not show up at her job or house. It might make you seem like the "crazy ex".

[mbcoach]

It sounds like you are on two different pages. There is no "right" way to behave during or after a breakup. Keep your good memories good.

[Katlakat]

Here's what you do.

Live your life.

Move on. If the friendship is meant to be, it will be. Sounds like you still have feelings for her on a deep level. Hoping you'll get back together is a nice thought, but you have to be open to the idea that she's already moved on, or will very soon.

In the meantime, get on with your life. Meet new people. Date around. Find hobbies you are interested in, read a book, or join a class to learn something new and unique. Meet new people!

When you involve things in your life, it will take away the longing for those text messages, and you'll find that your adventure lies somewhere else....so what are you waiting for?

[cremebrulee]

Originally Posted by Shadow Dude

My girlfriend broke up with me about the middle of September[I don't want to remember the date], we had been going out for 11 months, and I love her dearly, and since the break-up we have remained best friends, we still text and IM each other, and once we even went to see a movie as friends, but as of late[about the last week], she wont return anything I send her, won't return calls, texts, IM, anything. I haven't done anything to possibly rub her the wrong way, I've been 100% nice since the break-up, I've given her plenty of space and everything, so what do I do since she won't respond to my messages? Am I just over re-acting, or is something wrong? I don't want to have to show up at her job or her house, to me that is only in the most extreme of situations. I'm thinking about just continuing on and hoping she 'just got busy' or she fell asleep when I sent messages, she likes to nap.

Don't make excuses for her why she isn't responding...
You need to let her go completely and if she contacts you again, as much as you want to be with her, this is not healthy of you...you are first and foremost...

sometimes the greatest gift of love you can give to someone is to let them go?

[Memphis1979]

Originally Posted by Shadow Dude

My girlfriend broke up with me about the middle of September[I don't want to remember the date], we had been going out for 11 months, and I love her dearly, and since the break-up we have remained best friends, we still text and IM each other, and once we even went to see a movie as friends, but as of late[about the last week], she wont return anything I send her, won't return calls, texts, IM, anything. I haven't done anything to possibly rub her the wrong way, I've been 100% nice since the break-up, I've given her plenty of space and everything, so what do I do since she won't respond to my messages? Am I just over re-acting, or is something wrong? I don't want to have to show up at her job or her house, to me that is only in the most extreme of situations. I'm thinking about just continuing on and hoping she 'just got busy' or she fell asleep when I sent messages, she likes to nap.

Depends on how long she has been silent.

Odds are she is seeing someone, and you were just there to help her along until she did find someone. JMO.

[Kaye02]

No offense but you sound clingy and like a potential stalker. Leave the poor girl alone. She has no obligation to talk to you now that you are no longer together. Learn from this break up and move on.

[LaoTzuMindFu]

Originally Posted by Shadow Dude

What to do with a non-responsive ex?

Nothing. Walk away and find you someone else.

[Sunnydee]

Her lack of response is your answer. Let it go and move on with your life.

[movin'on]

My first thought is she's found someone else. Sorry.

At any rate, I agree with the other posters who say just walk away and preserve your self respect. I know it hurts now, but down the road you'll look back and know you handled it the right way.