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Enjoy your beta too sweetie...I am sure you could not handle an alpha between the sheets anyway.
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oh lawd have mercy, cheap shots comin' my way
Three things I haven't done is one measure myself. Two think about whether she is a Alpha or not and three wonder whether I am a Alpha or not.
What is just is, however true there was once where I became a Beta in a relationship and it was a complete disaster in the end.I was a younger man then though. But overall when I meet somebody what is just is, see how it goes.
I'm glad MarylandKitten was rewarded with a happy ending after realizing the need to compromise. The problem with a lot of feminist women nowadays (unnamed parties in this thread) is they approach the world with "I'm a mofoing princess and you'll DO things my way and the way I SAY It because I'm the one that's got the vag---so HA!"
What they don't realize is that type of rebellious attitude only brings them temporary satisfaction because no man will be content with such an attitude. Men need to feel empowered (even if you don't really do so ) and need to be made to feel like a man. It is just the facts of life. "THAT'S NOT THE FACTS OF MY LIFE!" you say? That's fine. You can keep carrying on like a screaming chihuahua and indulge in your independence. While you are chasing perfectly good, normal men away, women who don't have the independence complex and who still feel confident with their femininity will be picking up the poor lad you've shoved aside and making him so thankful that he lost you.
I'll step off my soapbox now.
I didn't see notice any "mofoing princesses" in this thread, however, I do agree that there are many poor lads out there for you to pick up and dust off.
If you had found mine, for instance, you'd have someone to tell you what time you should get up, when you should be home, what time dinner must be ready, who your friends should be, how long you can talk on the phone and to whom, and what chores you need to make sure you have done before you go to bed, what plants you may plant in HIS yard, etc. Hell, he'd even let you know when you were thirsty and needed a drink.
Have at it. I fully believe there is someone for everyone.
I didn't see notice any "mofoing princesses" in this thread, however, I do agree that there are many poor lads out there for you to pick up and dust off.
If you had found mine, for instance, you'd have someone to tell you what time you should get up, when you should be home, what time dinner must be ready, who your friends should be, how long you can talk on the phone and to whom, and what chores you need to make sure you have done before you go to bed, what plants you may plant in HIS yard, etc. Hell, he'd even let you know when you were thirsty and needed a drink.
Have at it. I fully believe there is someone for everyone.
I'm sorry about your bad experiences but using extremes to describe male/female relationships is pretty inaccurate and sad. I'm sorry that you are not aware of the difference between being a woman and a doormat. What you described is a man looking for a doormat. The type of woman I describe embraces femininity because she loves it, not because her spouse loves it. She doesn't let him tell her what to do but she does the things he wished for anyway because she wants to make him happy. He also lets her be her because he knows she won't insult his manhood or make him feel insecure. They are safe with each other--emotionally, sexually, and psychologically and ideally--financially.
You're right, there is someone for everyone but no one wants to be with a controlling jerk--whether they're a disagreeable (ex?)husband or a mofoing princess.
If you haven't experienced what I describe, you will some day and get what I mean. If you have, well then I hope you're nodding in agreement.
I'm with whoever said you should ask to join if you catch your man (or woman, I guess) watching a dirty bird special. I think it's exciting to share that kind of experience. I wouldn't be turned off by it at all. Provided that he is not solely getting his pleasure from porn, I'm cool with it. It's a great way to learn what your partner likes or would like to try. It can open the door to communication in ways you never imagined.
I think this is natural, and reacting harshly to something natural like masturbation is only going to cause shame and resentment. And that leads to being sneaky.
I think the only thing that the OP's guy did wrong was doing the deed in her presence - while she was sick. Pretty disrespectful after she asked him not to. She was wrong to ask him not to do it ever again and he was wrong to agree to it. I'm sure they both knew it was not going to stick.
There have been many a time I've come home and found my wifes boy toy beside the bed. I usually am proud that she took a little "her" time to help reduce stress and enjoy an few minutes of quiet time.
Guys do it, girls do it. Sometimes we do it alone and sometimes together.
It's better though when I walk in and am able to offer a little assistance.
By the way, just cause a guy watches a little porn does not mean he's a porn addict. I enjoy it on occasion but it's not something we do on a regular basis.
I'm sorry about your bad experiences but using extremes to describe male/female relationships is pretty inaccurate and sad. I'm sorry that you are not aware of the difference between being a woman and a doormat. What you described is a man looking for a doormat. The type of woman I describe embraces femininity because she loves it, not because her spouse loves it. She doesn't let him tell her what to do but she does the things he wished for anyway because she wants to make him happy. He also lets her be her because he knows she won't insult his manhood or make him feel insecure. They are safe with each other--emotionally, sexually, and psychologically and ideally--financially.
You're right, there is someone for everyone but no one wants to be with a controlling jerk--whether they're a disagreeable (ex?)husband or a mofoing princess.
If you haven't experienced what I describe, you will some day and get what I mean. If you have, well then I hope you're nodding in agreement.
I used an extreme, because you did. As far as experiencing what you are describing, I absolutely know the difference between a woman and a doormat. I'm a woman.
I used an extreme, because you did. As far as experiencing what you are describing, I absolutely know the difference between a woman and a doormat. I'm a woman.
You can be as catty with me as you like. Quite frankly, it affects me naught because everything I describe I am experiencing and have experienced. My philosophy works---maybe not for you because you look down upon it but it works for me. I'm happy and I only wish to see other women as happy as I am. I hope you have the happiness I have too, even if through your own philosophy. If not, wouldn't you want to at least give what I say a benefit of a doubt instead of snipping at me?
A lot of women feel the way you do, so you are not alone. However, masturbation is normal and healthy, even in a committed relationship.
I know... and yet I feel like Chessie about it... I'm not religious at all, but somehow I don't find the sight of a masturbating man appealing at all. I've caught (not exactly caught; just woke up at the wrong time) only one man in my life doing it once and I've gotta say I wasn't thrilled with it.
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I completely agree with this. However, I DON'T agree that it is acceptable behavior in the next room when you are home. No way. Sorry. I think the guy has a fantasy-thing going, a bad habit, if you will, and he's having a hard time (sorry about the pun!) yanking himself away from that (wow - a double whammy!).
I know many won't agree, but I'd never ever be okay with this. If I'm home, come to momma, or don't come at all.
I know... and yet I feel like Chessie about it... I'm not religious at all, but somehow I don't find the sight of a masturbating man appealing at all. I've caught (not exactly caught; just woke up at the wrong time) only one man in my life doing it once and I've gotta say I wasn't thrilled with it.
Could have been a bad dream
Many a time I dream about waking up and walking into weird places
He brought me flowers and candy, I bought him a porn-flick. We met each other half way at the door on the way home. We'll make it, yet.
Have a good night guys.
You go girl, hope you picked up that Andrew Blake DVD I recommended. Give each other a hand & let us know in the morning how you enjoyed the evening.
My skype web cam is up & running if you want to provide us a little porn we can all watch.
We promise not to tell anyone.
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