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Old 05-08-2007, 12:53 PM
 
Location: VA
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I always hear about men who "work the field", and are having sexual and romantic relationships with many women at the same time, but I have never met anyone like that myself. I am talking about the type of person who has a very active love and social life and has one of those little black books. He or she may have sexual or romantic relationships with a dozen women a month. I always wondered if someone like that was having as good of time as the stereotype.

Is this or has it been you?
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Old 05-08-2007, 01:05 PM
 
Location: Dilworth - Charlotte, NC.
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If they guy has not asked me to be his girlfriend then he can't expect me to be sitting patiently for him to make up his mind. Not fair to me. I know that most men date other chickies. One reason why I don't like to sleep around since there are so many std's. However when they confront me for going to dinner with another boy they are none to thrilled and I'm like "Where's my ring! We are not even dating so don't get posssive or jelous on me! since I'm not controling you". That is usually the wake-up call for them and realize they are putting me through the old double standard. When I have a boyfriend I'm strictly focused on them, my dont have the urge to cheat.
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Old 05-08-2007, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Debary, Florida
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I didn't have a black book full but I did date two men at the same time for awhile...they both knew I was dating the other, there were no secrets. I had not planned it that way however.

A friend set me up for an upcoming holiday weekend to date an old classmate of hers, before that actual holiday came up, I met someone who lived in the same apartment complex I did. I dated them both for awhile until I made up my mind between them.

It was kind of nerve wracking because both men were bothered by the fact I was seeing the two of them at the same time and I hated upsetting them...I was later to find out that the one I choose had no problem doing it too me when we were in a committed relationship...
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Old 05-08-2007, 01:24 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Yes, absolutely! When I was single I dated a LOT of guys at the same time. I didn't sleep with all of them though. I didn't have a black book because I could keep track of all my guys in my head. I am once again looking forward to my singlenesss.
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Old 05-08-2007, 01:48 PM
 
Location: Happiness is found inside your smile :)
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I can't say I had a little black book - but I did juggle four men at once - and I did that often

When you internet date men come out of the woodwork - and I'd have dates all week long

It was so much FUN!!!!! I loved the attention.
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Old 05-08-2007, 01:58 PM
 
Location: VA
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Those of you who were dating numerous men or women at the same time, did you feel anything emotional during the romance or just sexual desire. I never have been romantic with anyone I did not love.
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Old 05-08-2007, 02:04 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Obviously I felt something for one of them because I married him! But I won't deny there were sexual attractions to some of these men. What can I say, I'm human.
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Old 05-08-2007, 02:07 PM
 
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I have never had a harem of women to service. I wish I had but I was never that lucky!! Now that I am married it will never happen. Never cheated, never will.
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Old 05-08-2007, 02:17 PM
 
Location: Happiness is found inside your smile :)
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All the men I dated knew I was dating others - I was always upfront. If they asked me to be committed I assessed the situation. Of course I married one!

BUt some were just to hang out with and have fun! Lots were for the "in bed" kind of fun, and some just wanted like a dance partner - or a person to go to the Opera, Ballet etc with.

I'd have to say most of them were nice guys - I didn't do online dating just to hook up - so they weren't sleaze balls.

PS - and although I know there is a great connection with being sexual and in love, I'd have to say the best sex I've ever had was one night stands
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Old 05-09-2007, 01:38 AM
 
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Never been a player, but have known many women & men who were, especially when they were in their 20's. They all seemed very unhappy to me at the time & seemed to have had major relationship problems later, when they were looking for a relationship.

Dingler, are you compiling info for a book?
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