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a verbal communication of not wanting to see them again? after x number of dates? after x number of weeks? months?
i know after the first date you might just never hear from the guy again if he is not interested in you, or the girl may just never return a call. but after how long a period of time would you have to communicate an ending to the relationship (or dating, however you categorize it).
For me, when I was dating, it was at the end of the first date. In my experience as a woman, it's usually clear if the guy is interested in a second date. He'll usually say something like, "Can I see you again?" If I'm not interested in seeing him again, I'll just be up front and say no.
Sometimes, a guy would say "I think we had a great time, didn't you?" If I didn't feel the same way, I'd just tell him politely that we just didn't click. Obviously, if he hasn't expressed that sort of thing, it's obvious that he isn't into me.
Anyway, I believe it's the most courteous thing to not lead someone on into believing that you might want to see them again when you're not interested. It's always best to be up front and say that you don't want to see them instead of saying, "I'll call you" and then never calling. If you've ever been in that situation, really liking someone who didn't like you back but didn't come right out and tell you and left you hanging, then you'd know how terrible that feels to be strung along.
In the interest of being a nice person, as well as keeping things neat and tidy before feelings get hurt more than necessary, I'd try to be as up front as possible. But try to do it in gently. The earlier you do it, the easier it is. Then you can move on with a clear conscience.
Well, I think the decent, least cowardly thing to do is to let anyone know - no matter how long you've seen them - that you are no longer interested. How hard is that??
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If you say that you love someone and a are really crazy about someone, it should be at least 90 days if you have a decent heart. By then, you should know each other well enough to know if there's even a chance for a future together, unless abnormal stuff happens, like cheating, stealing, etc.
Whenever you're no longer invested in the relationship, you owe the person the verbal closure. Whether its 2 dates or 2 years, if you no longer want to see that person, just say so.
Never! No one owns any person. People are with you because they choose to be.
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