Women initiating sex. (therapy, couples, emotionally, internet)

[ManGoneADreamin]

Originally Posted by Serafinez

Yeah...why the hell would he always have to mention he doesn't want to, when other parts of him sure do want to? Does this make sense to anyone?

What positions do you guys normally do when having sex? THESE ARE FOR YOU TO THINK ABOUT, YOU DON'T HAVE TO ANSWER..lol..

Like, do you normally do doggy style or are you mainly lying on the bed with your back to the bed?



Basically, is he the one that does the most work usually?


Maybe the next couple times, you should let him lie on his back, and you do all the work or something, and then you can see if any change happens in the amount he wants to do it...

B.c the only thing I can think of, is that he just doesn't want the exercise of it all, and just wants to relax..

[Serafinez]

Originally Posted by ManGoneADreamin

B.c the only thing I can think of, is that he just doesn't want the exercise of it all, and just wants to relax..

Possible, he's gained weight, he constantly complains that he's warm, and he usually is dizzy and relatively nauseous after sex (kept trying to point out that him eating a ton before we have sex isn't necesarily a good thing but he doesn't seem to think it has anything to do with it).

He usually does all the work. How he does all the work varies, to answer your question. It sometimes also involves lifting (though i am lightweight, but still) . I would do all, or part of the work, if only he'd let me. But from the moment we start, he hardly lets me touch him, he wants to do everything, please me and set the tone. If and when i do get him arroused, from that point on it's amazingly hard to get him to even slow down or just sit there and look. Or maybe I'm not trying the right way.

[Hawk J]

Originally Posted by jay_jay26

How I do it:

Scenario #1.

Jose is watching TV (Family Guy), and I stand in front of the TV. I say in a very demanding voice (in Spanish): "TV is silly, just do me". Of course, I'd be wearing a long tshirt with nothing underneath, and then...we wake up everyone in the apartment building.

Scenario #2.
I'm cooking...only wearing a small dress or mini skirt. Then, I call Jose to "help" me with "something". He "accidentally" put his hands on my butt (ok, I put his hand on my butt), and...the sink is still on one piece.

Scenario #3.
He comes home from a long day at the base. I wait for him at the door totally naked. We brake tons of articles of the UCMJ in less than ten minutes.

Stand At Attention Soldier...

[Hawk J]

Originally Posted by Serafinez

Possible, he's gained weight, he constantly complains that he's warm, and he usually is dizzy and relatively nauseous after sex (kept trying to point out that him eating a ton before we have sex isn't necesarily a good thing but he doesn't seem to think it has anything to do with it).

He usually does all the work. How he does all the work varies, to answer your question. It sometimes also involves lifting (though i am lightweight, but still) . I would do all, or part of the work, if only he'd let me. But from the moment we start, he hardly lets me touch him, he wants to do everything, please me and set the tone. If and when i do get him arroused, from that point on it's amazingly hard to get him to even slow down or just sit there and look. Or maybe I'm not trying the right way.

Sounds to me like he doesn't appreciate a Wonderful Gal, when he has one, in You, darlin'.




Does he go for a yearly Physical?
Sounds like he could have some Cholesterol Problems, maybe...


What is his age?

[marshfield mom]

I have tried the trashy to the subtle .Nothing works.I give up.

[seeniorita]

Originally Posted by marshfield mom

I have tried the trashy to the subtle .Nothing works.I give up.

I agree. Even to the point of outright asking for it and still that doesn't do it. I get the "it should be spontaneous" it's not romantic to tell me when to do it crap!

Patiently awaiting the "spontaneous" moment however, I am over it!

[jay_jay26]

Originally Posted by Hawk J

Stand At Attention Soldier...

I'm actually a sailor (so as Jose), but Aye, Aye sir (or sergeant, or petty officer)!

[Rakin]

My's wifes favorite line is from "An Officer & a Gentleman"

"Take me know or lose me forever" That usually gets me headed to the bedroom quick.

[Hawk J]

Originally Posted by jay_jay26

I'm actually a sailor (so as Jose), but Aye, Aye sir (or sergeant, or petty officer)!

Years ago i went to a diesel 'A' school in Great Lakes, IL.
EN1

...At Ease

[Serafinez]

Originally Posted by Hawk J

Sounds to me like he doesn't appreciate a Wonderful Gal, when he has one, in You, darlin'.




Does he go for a yearly Physical?
Sounds like he could have some Cholesterol Problems, maybe...


What is his age?

He's in his middle twenties. Could something like that really affect his sex drive so bad?

He seems to be very visual (no surprise there). What really bugs me and makes me wonder is why the 'no, thanks' when he's arroused. Well, he took one a year ago or so....and other than qualifying as overweight, he seemed to be fine.