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Old 10-20-2009, 02:01 PM
 
Location: California
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then why stay????? I mean besides financial issues and children being involved, but really if your dating someone and don't trust them, or whatever the problem may be...WHY stay with them?? Are so many people so weak that they can't stand up and leave a relationship for a happier life? I understand it is very hard to leave a relationship bc he/she could be the one that got away...but when your miserable why worry about one day? If you based every single decision on "one day" or "what-if" then you'll always be miserable.
I've recently taken a whole new outlook on life, just a personal decision, but I'm staying positive and I'm in this life for me and if people want to join my happy life then fabulous, if things don't work out well there is ALWAYS tomorrow!
What is it about being in a relationship that makes you so miserable that you want to stay??? Again besides the obvious like financial issues and children and such things. I'm talking people who haven't been together more then a couple years and things aren't that great in the relationship...what makes you stay in the relationship???
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Old 10-20-2009, 02:02 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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then why stay????? I mean besides financial issues and children being involved, but really if your dating someone and don't trust them, or whatever the problem may be...WHY stay with them?? Are so many people so weak that they can't stand up and leave a relationship for a happier life? I understand it is very hard to leave a relationship bc he/she could be the one that got away...but when your miserable why worry about one day? If you based every single decision on "one day" or "what-if" then you'll always be miserable.
I've recently taken a whole new outlook on life, just a personal decision, but I'm staying positive and I'm in this life for me and if people want to join my happy life then fabulous, if things don't work out well there is ALWAYS tomorrow!
What is it about being in a relationship that makes you so miserable that you want to stay??? Again besides the obvious like financial issues and children and such things. I'm talking people who haven't been together more then a couple years and things aren't that great in the relationship...what makes you stay in the relationship???


It's the fear of the unknown and of simply being alone that seems to drive many to stay when they should clearly go.
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Old 10-20-2009, 02:03 PM
 
Location: Falls Church, VA
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I've asked myself this questions many times... specially when people stay in abusive relationships... why would you put yourself and your children (if there are any) through such hell?
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Old 10-20-2009, 02:07 PM
 
Location: California
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It's the fear of the unknown and of simply being alone that seems to drive many to stay when they should clearly go.
I feel like if people just took that leap of faith in themselves so many people would be so much happier...its ashame!
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Old 10-20-2009, 02:08 PM
 
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I've asked myself this questions many times... specially when people stay in abusive relationships... why would you put yourself and your children (if there are any) through such hell?
Exactly! At what point do you feel so worthless (for lack of better words) that you let your life becoming such a horror film?
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Old 10-20-2009, 02:09 PM
 
Location: Falls Church, VA
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Exactly! At what point do you feel so worthless (for lack of better words) that you let your life becoming such a horror film?
Or a telenovela!!! lol...
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Old 10-20-2009, 02:14 PM
 
Location: California
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I wouldn't stay one minute with someone I was dating and unhappy with. A marriage (especially with kids) would be worth putting the effort into...but not abuse, that's over the line. Just "not being happy" is no reason to bail on a marriage, you need to first figure out why, and then how to address it, because something is going to keep cropping up in every relationship you have. Most marriages end because one person isn't happy with themself, and the easiest thing to do is blame the spouse.
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Old 10-20-2009, 02:22 PM
 
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then why stay????? I mean besides financial issues and children being involved, but really if your dating someone and don't trust them, or whatever the problem may be...WHY stay with them?? Are so many people so weak that they can't stand up and leave a relationship for a happier life? I understand it is very hard to leave a relationship bc he/she could be the one that got away...but when your miserable why worry about one day? If you based every single decision on "one day" or "what-if" then you'll always be miserable.
I've recently taken a whole new outlook on life, just a personal decision, but I'm staying positive and I'm in this life for me and if people want to join my happy life then fabulous, if things don't work out well there is ALWAYS tomorrow!
What is it about being in a relationship that makes you so miserable that you want to stay??? Again besides the obvious like financial issues and children and such things. I'm talking people who haven't been together more then a couple years and things aren't that great in the relationship...what makes you stay in the relationship???
I made a vow in front of over 200 people and God that I would remain with this woman. I know, I know, if it's bad leave.

I love my son dearly as most of you know and I would like to have a great share in raising him the best I can. After he is out on his own I have the plan to leave. I guess right now I am just making it work to see my son.
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Old 10-20-2009, 02:30 PM
 
Location: California
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I made a vow in front of over 200 people and God that I would remain with this woman. I know, I know, if it's bad leave.

I love my son dearly as most of you know and I would like to have a great share in raising him the best I can. After he is out on his own I have the plan to leave. I guess right now I am just making it work to see my son.

Thats understandable!
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Old 10-20-2009, 02:40 PM
 
Location: Falls Church, VA
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I made a vow in front of over 200 people and God that I would remain with this woman. I know, I know, if it's bad leave.

I love my son dearly as most of you know and I would like to have a great share in raising him the best I can. After he is out on his own I have the plan to leave. I guess right now I am just making it work to see my son.
I understand where you are coming from, I do... but have you thought about what your son is going through? I do not mean to offend you in any way, nor do I know what kind of relationship you have, or what is it that you are going through.

But coming from a broken home, my father stayed with my mother because of us kids, and we suffered a great deal. In the end I would have much preferred my father taken us away from that witch when he had the chance instead of making us share the hell!!! just MHO...
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