Alright, well I have to share mine with someone, but it's a fresh wound so while I'm sure some people will laugh (I always chuckle at other people's bad stories, lol), it is pretty hurtful right now...
So my relationship was pretty rocky over the past few months, she is just one of those types of girls who was always impossible to please, where everything I did was never enough because there was always one little thing I didn't do. I would take her to dinner, buy her drinks, have a good time, but I didn't get her flowers. Or I'd take her to the beach, pay for everything as usual, get her this little pink bear she wanted, got her some taffy, but there was one thing apparently I didn't get her that she had to point out. It was very frustrating. I should have ended the relationship after a drunken night at my house for July 4, where she ran around naked in front of my friends for several hours, we tried to put her to bed, didn't work, she threw beer in my face because she said I didn't tell her when the grande finale for fireworks was (she watched it, she was just too drunk to remember), she propositioned my friends, she told me she'd cheat on me if I didn't marry her, she accused me of not loving her, etc.
Anyway, so I go back home, because it's a long distance relationship, and pay for a $500 ticket to visit her, this is after the first breakup, when we got back together a few weeks earlier. We had communicated better and I thought were working some things out. The first few days went mostly really well, I mean at least we seemed to have fun and there were no arguments, but she did say some mean things to me when she was drunk. I happened to mention this online game I thought was fun and wanted to show her it for 5 minutes, then she said, "Whatever, you never pay attention or care during sex anyway, you're just bad at it." I have no idea at all what that had to do with what I said, lol. So I was just like, "Umm... huh?" I thought we were having a great time that night before she said that, so it was very weird.
Two days into the trip, she calls me before we were going to go mini golfing with friends and dumps me. No reasons given, just says she doesn't feel it's working out. I told her it would have been lovely to know that before I paid $500 for my plane ticket.
Later that night, at the bar with my friends, already pretty disturbed about the whole thing and just how horrible and used I felt, she texts me and says she cheated on me. Then she proceeds to tell me she cheated on me 8 times with 3 different guys, over the course of the relationship, as far back as just 6 weeks after we were bf-gf. She even rubs it in like, "Yeah it was amazing with the last guy, he was great at sex," and throws out everything you can imagine -- she thinks I am gay, I have a small dick, I suck at sex, I was a horrible boyfriend, you name it.
I've never seen or experienced someone being so cruel to someone else, especially when you break up with them, then you admitted you cheated on them, and then you proceed to insult them and show no remorse? It was truly unbelievable and I'm still having trouble putting my mind around it all. This was Wednesday that most of that went down, but since then she has still tried to start arguments with me despite me deleting her from my phone, Facebook, etc. (to be fair she deleted me from one Facebook account, but I have two, I deleted her from my personal account first).
I think it's the worst because of just how much money I spent on her and trying to show I cared however I could, by actions, by words, any way that I could, she was the first girl I ever said "I love you" to and she just tore me apart basically. She claims she was "black out" drunk the first time she cheated on me, as if that makes it ok. I think she has a definite problem with alcohol -- reckless decisions, bad judgment, binge-drinking, these pretty much all fit the bill!
Her big deal, I'm not joking here, was an argument about the New York Yankees. I'm a big Yankees fan (happy we made the World Series!), and what I told her, because I wasn't supposed to come back home this month at all, was, "Hey I'd really like to see you during your fall break, that would be fun. I just wanted to let you know at least so you don't get mad or something when I'm there that I am pretty sure the Yankees will be playing when I'm back home, it'll probably just be 2-3 games in 5 days, but I want to watch those games so we'll have the rest of the day to do whatever. I told my other friends I'm coming back just to see you!" This argument somehow went on days, but she was like, "Look if you're just going to watch the Yankees all day every day don't even bother coming back." I thought huh? Hun, it's only a few games. But she had repeatedly complained about all of my hobbies, as if she wanted to be THE only thing in my life. I have a fairly new friend here who has a cool group of guys he hangs out with, but whenever I'd go over there she would say, "Oh so you're going to your new boyfriend's house huh?" I just thought what? It's a big deal because I like hanging out with a friend at his Hollywood hills house and his brothers, other friends, etc. and having fun? Umm ok. So then the Yankees thing continued because she kept saying I shouldn't care about the games at all if I'm with her, I can watch highlights later, who cares about watching the games, blah blah etc.
I don't think she gets sports at all, but if she wants to date men, she's going to have to learn that men mostly all love sports, whether it's one sport or another, or several. She told my friend that her cheating was justified "because he cheated on me with the Yankees, basically." Hahaha, wow, I just could not believe this girl.
I admit that I'm just really in bad shape right now, because even though not much gets to me, just the idea that someone could pretend to be sweet to my face and over the phone and whatnot so many times, and yet be cheating on me, that's really awful. She has tried telling my other friends all of these horrible lies about me, and basically putting me down to everyone.
I'm getting my revenge now, but I won't post it in public until it's done. Let's just say it's pretty amusing, and "revenge is a dish best served COLD."
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It sounds like she did a number on you...some girls are like that. Hopefully your next one will be a regular girl (not a manipulative demanding freak), one you can learn to trust and open up to again.
I've had guys break up with me because I didn't return their call right away! Sheesh.
