Clashing Libido - How do you handle it? (wife, marrying, women)

[Joseph Marnix]

3 weeks ago, I started my hormone replacement therapy to get my testosterone levels back up.

Over the past 5 days, I've done a lot of physical work: gym, painting the fence, and more gym workout.

We did have sex last Thursday morning, and Saturday night. But Sunday night and Monday night, I was feeling frisky. But wife was not interested. The opportunity for us is there, but she isn't in the mood and said that we done it already.

Anyway, I've handled it badly before (in the past) by withdrawing from her, and withholding any affection of even initiating conversations.

So last night, I told her I have desire for her. And the choice is hers. If she does not want, then it's just lost opportunity for us to be closer in intimacy.

It took me a while longer to finally fall asleep. But I feel like my old self without the old bad behaviors. I just find it sad for such loss opportunities.

How do you handle such conflicting libidos in your R?

[BLAZER PROPHET]

A couple of things...

First, my wife is the sexual predator between us (that's what I get for marrying a younger woman), but I get my licks in (no pun intended). So I really cannot relate.

Second, make sex adventurous. Tear her panties off and molest her a bit or throw her on the kitchen table... or do what I do and suggest a 'naked dvd night'... For some women, it's like being with a juke box- you just need to plug in enough change and it's, "one for the money, two for the show, now go cat go..."

[Beena]

"Molest her a bit"????

As opposed to Molest her a lot?

[BLAZER PROPHET]

Originally Posted by Beena

"Molest her a bit"????

As opposed to Molest her a lot?

Well, start with a bit and hope it leads to a lot.

[crbcrbrgv]

Originally Posted by Joseph Marnix

3 weeks ago, I started my hormone replacement therapy to get my testosterone levels back up.

Over the past 5 days, I've done a lot of physical work: gym, painting the fence, and more gym workout.

We did have sex last Thursday morning, and Saturday night. But Sunday night and Monday night, I was feeling frisky. But wife was not interested. The opportunity for us is there, but she isn't in the mood and said that we done it already.

Anyway, I've handled it badly before (in the past) by withdrawing from her, and withholding any affection of even initiating conversations.

So last night, I told her I have desire for her. And the choice is hers. If she does not want, then it's just lost opportunity for us to be closer in intimacy.

It took me a while longer to finally fall asleep. But I feel like my old self without the old bad behaviors. I just find it sad for such loss opportunities.

How do you handle such conflicting libidos in your R?

With my left hand and a big bottle of Keri lotion.

[BLAZER PROPHET]

Originally Posted by crbcrbrgv

With my left hand and a big bottle of Keri lotion.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

But c'mon, isn't that the easy way out? Where's the fun & adventure in that?

[eger]

I've been on Hormone Replacement Therapy for 2 years, finally got off of it last month. When on hormones I was ready any time all the time. She just goes with the flow, if I want it I can have it.

If you want to agitate her then rub one out while she is sleeping next to you, then maybe she'll get the hint.

[gman6974]

Originally Posted by BLAZER PROPHET

Second, make sex adventurous. Tear her panties off and molest her a bit or throw her on the kitchen table... or do what I do and suggest a 'naked dvd night'... For some women, it's like being with a juke box- you just need to plug in enough change and it's, "one for the money, two for the show, now go cat go..."

I agree. Force yourself on her like an animal and hope it makes her hot. If not, you might be arrested.

[GypsySoul22]

No offense meant, OP but just because you are 'ready for it' being on hormone medicine, it doesn't mean your wife is. Do you have kids, does she work?

I don't know how old you both are but perhaps her libido is not as high as yours and you can't 'withdraw' and 'pout' because your hormones tell you it's go time. Maybe you can suggest she go on female hormones...? I doubt that will go over well but you can try.

[BLAZER PROPHET]

Originally Posted by gman6974

I agree. Force yourself on her like an animal and hope it makes her hot. If not, you might be arrested.

Good point. But I think it's worth the risk. Besides, if properly done, she'll be as hot as a pistol.