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Old 10-29-2009, 04:58 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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Default The cost of living is low in the state of denial (rant)

So, I received a call today from an old beau. I have mentioned him in a few threads. I stayed with him longer than I should have, trying to take into consideration that we came from very different backgrounds; he is country and I am city. But in the end it really boiled down to a serious lack of class and social grace on his part. He is doomed to a life of beer, bars and spilt milk that becomes a Greek tragedy every single time.

He has just gone through his 4th relationship since we broke up. He insists he is fed up, he's ready to give up dating, he's glad to be rid of them, etc.
I asked why he was calling me to tell me this, since I am one of "them". He said he wants to know what it is about "you women" that makes them so hard to please. Again, I am one of "them" so what is the point of asking me this? LOL.

I just laughed and told him he was in complete denial over the reality that he is own worst enemy. I reminded him of his famous last words when I made one final attempt at resolving our issues, "I'm not going there. Nothing has changed so far, it probably never will." No more to be said. It was time to get and I got. All he could say was that he is just sick of it, it's always his fault and he can never do anything right. Funny, that is what he'd say to me any time I called him out on anything. He could not be corrected or told that he was offensive in any way.

I cut the convo short, wished him luck and just shook my head. He actually drained me for a moment. Ugh.
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Old 10-29-2009, 05:10 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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Again, I am one of "them" so what is the point of asking me this? LOL.
He just wants some chocolate leftovers
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Old 10-29-2009, 05:16 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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He just wants some chocolate leftovers
LOL. Nice.
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Old 10-29-2009, 07:01 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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He was in hopes of a vulnerable moment.
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Old 10-29-2009, 08:21 PM
 
Location: Dallas, Texas
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Toxic guy -- good riddance and good for you!
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Old 10-29-2009, 08:32 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Some people go their whole lives living this way. Not seeing themselves or being aware, conscious.

I've met people that were quite a bit older and still blame the world and can't see themselves.

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Old 10-29-2009, 09:56 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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They're perfectly fine with it, comfortable in that place. I've been there and could have easily made it a life-long practice. My gut won't let me.

There was no such thing as disagreeing civilly. Break-ups are supposed to be bitter in his world. And whenever I brought something to his attention, he immediately became hostile and turned the tables, put me through the ringer before he finally apologized. By the time that happened, he had violated in so many other ways that the original issue was cake in comparison. I've had so many jaw-dropping moments with some of the things he'd say and how he'd try to deflect. It was so transparent and ridiculous, he had to be completely brain dead to think it would even fly. But when I saw how he actually worked himself into believing what he said, I knew he was a goner.

Every single one of these 4 women dumped him. According to our mutual friends, they have even tried sitting him down and telling him how out of control he is. Nope, it's not him. He's the victim and happy to be.
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Old 10-29-2009, 10:40 PM
 
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Send him a picture postcard of the planet earth.. on the back write, "wish you were here!"..

Seriously, I'm glad you're not with that dude anymore.. Sounds like he's a typical loser anyway..

And I think the term you were looking for was a "Wannabe Redneck Tragedy".. either way..

Breathe in, breathe out, move on..
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