What do women think of "Loners" (wife, love, hubby)

[Gudra]

Don't think particularly well of them, in general. The main problem is they seem to be selfish, thoughtless towards others' feelings, get angry when you are forced to point that out( I have two people around me who are that way). Not invariably but..

[MIKEETC]

Speaking from a male perspective, when I think of the loner, I visualize someone who does not socialize with anyone at all. No social engagements, workplace lunches, old friends from back in the day, etc. This is what I call a "100 percent loner" and such a person is awkward around people and awkward to have around. I've also noticed that they don't take the initiative when it comes to doing stuff with friends. They wait to be asked or told what to do. I once had a friend like that. It got boring and I rarely see him anymore.

[MMichelle]

I'm all for someone who can be on their own and can handle being alone at times. Some people are more social than others, some have large circles of friends, others not that many - I'm ok with marching to a different beat. However, if a person is not well balanced or has a very difficult time interacting including "getting along with others" - it's a red flag.

[mango tango]

Originally Posted by funymann

I kinda beg to differ on alot of the comments.

I am a loner type. I don't have alot of close friends but it's my choice. It's not like I don't get along with people. I think most people are idiots. I guess my thinking is alittle deeper than most.

I would like to enjoy things that some of the mainstream wouldn't. Like for instance, all the guys are going out on the town to do...oh whatever. We are walking down the street together and all of them are talking about really stupid stuff. Childish BS. I am admiring the designs on the ancient buildings as we walk down the street. I am looking at the stars in the sky that intrigue me. When they look back at me and I am in lala land they tend to shy away from inviting me to the "guys" night out. Which is fine with me.

Am I wrong?

You may come off as pretentious and/or condescending.

Also, while I am fairly deep at times myself, I find it irritating when someone doesn't know how to relax and have some lighthearted fun. Life isn't one big philosophy discussion, and this is coming from someone who loves her philosophy classes

[samston]

Originally Posted by mango tango

You may come off as pretentious and/or condescending.

Also, while I am fairly deep at times myself, I find it irritating when someone doesn't know how to relax and have some lighthearted fun. Life isn't one big philosophy discussion, and this is coming from someone who loves her philosophy classes

but isn't life also expecting everything is relative, and all experience is subject to the individual?

you are not being tolerant, if you expect him to tolerate others more.

[moonshadow]

I love my loner and simply see him as an independent and interesting man that has little time for the inane. That's not to say that he's rude or offensive or socially inept because he's not.

This makes him infinitely interesting and I gotta say a damn sight more pleasurable to be around than a lot of the social butterflies and their posses I've endured in the past.

[rlrl]

that's very heartening to hear because everything sounds terrible with regard to loners

these women on the job who try to change me to be more social have no idea what it's like to have so much to do on a job that's draining and how socilazing to a loner is even more of a pain

i've been accused of being rude for not aking the time but it's they who are rude, i believe

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by ManGoneADreamin

What do women think of men that like to be on there own and do their own thing?


Would you even date or start a relationship with someone who doesn't have any close friends?



Would you date a "new guy" in town, that is a loner but also wants to meet some people?


How much importance do women put on a man's social surroundings?

Yes and no...I would think why doesn't he have friends....but also think cool...i don't have to deal with his ding-bat annoying friends..haha

[rlrl]

that's true you won't have to deal with his friends. i don't have friends because the friends i had either married, faded away or went sour. as far as the sour ones, often i find it very tough to forget bad friendships that ended because i felt inadequate compared to the other guy or i was snubbed or the guy didn't come out and tell me i was too 'different" to socialize with them anymore

i tend to carry these memories into any social situations and either end up getting paranoid, reading things into the situaion that may or may not be there, or just giving up totally. it's like there's no pleasure in going out with others

but i'm not a fighting type and i'm not a loner because i'm abusive

And i hate it when women try to get me to change

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by rlrl

that's true you won't have to deal with his friends. i don't have friends because the friends i had either married, faded away or went sour. as far as the sour ones, often i find it very tough to forget bad friendships that ended because i felt inadequate compared to the other guy or i was snubbed or the guy didn't come out and tell me i was too 'different" to socialize with them anymore

i tend to carry these memories into any social situations and either end up getting paranoid, reading things into the situaion that may or may not be there, or just giving up totally. it's like there's no pleasure in going out with others

but i'm not a fighting type and i'm not a loner because i'm abusive

And i hate it when women try to get me to change

Yeah most men hate that. My brother and uncle do what they are told and what their wives want while they are around...then they sneek off or hang out with their buddies and do what they want. lol ain't marriage grand.