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Old 11-02-2009, 05:09 PM
 
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how serious is a guy about a girl if he is thinking about potential children with her? i know girls can start thinking about potential family with just as crush, w/o a date even, but guys? do they have to be serious about the girl to talk to her about potential children? or can guys be like girls and talk about having kids with anyone?
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Old 11-02-2009, 05:15 PM
 
Location: Kansas
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I love kids (volunteered at my local children's hospital for 3 years) but I wouldn't talk about having kids with the potential partner until way down the road when we're both comfortable with sharing more personal information. If she asks if I want children, I'll say 'yes' as a general response.
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Old 11-02-2009, 05:15 PM
 
Location: Space Coast
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I've seen guys talk about having kids when they had no particular "agenda". There are some guys out there that like kids and want them some day.
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Old 11-02-2009, 05:27 PM
 
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There's a difference between talking about having kids someday and having kids with a particular someone.

I think it's sweet when a guy likes a girl enough to talk about having kids with her, but there's definitely a line that you don't want to cross.
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Old 11-02-2009, 05:44 PM
 
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If it looks like the relationship might be going somewhere, then it's VERY important to have that conversation sooner rather than later. If the guy is looking to get married and have a family, and the woman has no interest in kids, why waste his time?

Now, if it's early days and he's just making general conversation and not indicating that he is looking at the woman as an incubator, no big deal. Some guys really love kids. Doesn't mean he wants them right now, or in the next year, but just as a someday-thing.
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Old 11-02-2009, 06:01 PM
 
Location: SoCal - Sherman Oaks & Woodland Hills
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how serious is a guy about a girl if he is thinking about potential children with her?
What exactly do you mean by "thinking about potential children"? "Thinking" about it and "Talking" about it are two different things. For one, no woman is a mind reader and she doesnt know what the guy (or anyone for that matter) is thinking. If the guy is "talking" about it, more often than not, this is just the guy trying to figure out a way to get the woman to have sex with him or have MORE sex with him. In other words, if the guy is talking about children (he shouldnt because marriage should come first), he is more than likely just trying to figure out a way to make the girl say "aaaaawwwwwww" and get him sex.
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Old 11-02-2009, 06:05 PM
 
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What exactly do you mean by "thinking about potential children"? "Thinking" about it and "Talking" about it are two different things. For one, no woman is a mind reader and she doesnt know what the guy (or anyone for that matter) is thinking. If the guy is "talking" about it, more often than not, this is just the guy trying to figure out a way to get the woman to have sex with him or have MORE sex with him. In other words, if the guy is talking about children (he shouldnt because marriage should come first), he is more than likely just trying to figure out a way to make the girl say "aaaaawwwwwww" and get him sex.
he says "if we get serious and have a couple of kids down the road in a year or 2" or something along those lines..........is what i mean by "thinking about potential children"
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Old 11-02-2009, 06:40 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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Could be a real desire for offspring, or just a ploy to get to the part that pushes offspring out.
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Old 11-03-2009, 12:31 AM
 
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how serious is a guy about a girl if he is thinking about potential children with her? i know girls can start thinking about potential family with just as crush, w/o a date even, but guys? do they have to be serious about the girl to talk to her about potential children? or can guys be like girls and talk about having kids with anyone?

I like kids.. I just couldn't eat a whole one.

Really, if I'm going to talk about having children with someone, I better be damn serious with them. It depends on how the talk is too though.. If it's something like, "Yeah, I want to have kids someday.. maybe a couple boys and a hermaphrodite.." well, I wouldn't take that too seriously. But, if it's, "I think we would make beautiful children..", that's pretty serious. That's not something that I would ever mention casually.
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Old 11-03-2009, 01:16 AM
 
Location: AR
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Usually when I talk about kids that early, it's "you don't want kids, do you?"
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