Age of desire for serious relationship/marriage (man, single, husband)

[UrbanLover]

I am a 26 year old male and will turn 27 within the next couple of months.

I have absolutely no desire to be married up to this point. Actually, I have no desire to be in a serious relationship either.

Some people around me (family,friends and random people) are starting to hint that it's time for me to start looking.

I was thinking around 35 to be a good age for myself.

But, I was wondering from others that felt the same way as me in their mid 20's.....Did you become open more to serious relationship/marriage with age or did you remain simply not interested over time?

[BacktoNE]

At 27 I was in a long term relationship, but absolutely not interested in marriage. I didn't think about marriage until my mid-30's and then took the plunge at 39. That was perfect for me.

[nuala]

38

[UrbanLover]

Originally Posted by BacktoNE

At 27 I was in a long term relationship, but absolutely not interested in marriage. I didn't think about marriage until my mid-30's and then took the plunge at 39. That was perfect for me.

Oh, wow. That sounds like a perfect age for myself.

[TheImportersWife]

I was never interested in marriage (or a family) until I met my husband and marrying him didn't cross my mind until we were 2+ years into our relationship. I met him right before my 25th birthday and married him at 28, right before my 29th birthday. He was 33 (but it was also his 2nd marriage.)


I went through my teens and early to mid twenties swearing I would never marry or have children. Then life gave me a good kick in the a*s. (for the better! )

[andreaspercheron]

At the end of the day only you can be responsible for you and only you can decide what you are ready for or not. Family and friends have a funny way of putting on the pressure for grandkids, relationships, marriage etc but, it's not them you have to come home to everyday.

You know yourself better than anyone, if you say you are not ready believe me, you are doing someone in the future a HUGE favor by getting into a relationship when you are good and ready and if you want to be single forever, that's okay too.

Society still puts too much pressure on single people like they are diseased or something. I give kudos to those who are confident enough in themselves to stay single and be happy. Good for you!

[UrbanLover]

Originally Posted by andreaspercheron

At the end of the day only you can be responsible for you and only you can decide what you are ready for or not. Family and friends have a funny way of putting on the pressure for grandkids, relationships, marriage etc but, it's not them you have to come home to everyday.

You know yourself better than anyone, if you say you are not ready believe me, you are doing someone in the future a HUGE favor by getting into a relationship when you are good and ready and if you want to be single forever, that's okay too.

Society still puts too much pressure on single people like they are diseased or something. I give kudos to those who are confident enough in themselves to stay single and be happy. Good for you!

Thanks. It seems that everyone started on me about it on my 25th birthday.

[Gudra]

Andrea is absolutely right (just repped her). But probably around 30 or so . But desire isn't the same as actually doing it..

[MAtheBanker]

I'm 24, and I've been having the marriage itch for about a year now. Of course most of it comes from the culture I grew up in and am around most of the time (MORMON!). Most of my friends are married, and I've been getting pressure from my family for a few months, but that in no way influences my decisions when it comes to marriage. I do things on my own time, and it almost feels natural that marriage comes next. I already have the career, house, dog, etc... I'm not anywhere near ready to be in a relationship at the moment, though, so I'm focusing on how I can better myself when I decide that time is now.

[Thursday007]

When I was in my early 30's I once dated a man in his 20's who was obsessed with getting married and then he got all wierd on me. I told him candidly, "you won't be ready to get married until you are about 32."

I ran into him not too long ago and he did get married - at the age of 32.

But, everyone and everyone's needs are different and some people never get married, some marry earlier and do just fine. You just need to go at it at your own pace.