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I've been talking to a young lady for a little over a month now. We've been on two dates and were planning a third one tomorrow since we're off of work. She has mentioned coming to my place in the past, and I insisted that I wasn't ready for her to come here. She doesn't have a car and has on several occasions suggested that I come pick her up, bring her here, and drive her back, to which my reply was a snappy "Hell Naw!" Granted, I live in Baltimore. She lives in Lorton, Va. That's 1 hr, 10 mins one way IF I-95 and Capital Beltway are clear.
Some background: she's 22, I'm 27. She's a bit spoiled, parents support her financially (she's a non-paid intern from NY), she went to a prestigious school. etc. I'm currently living below my means to pay off school debt and save up money. I've worked and paid for just about everything I have, and am very humble. She's a bit pretentious. I live in a not-so-great (but good enough for me, temporarily) one bedroom apartment here in Baltimore. I purposely kept it relatively unfurnished. I have a bed, a table, and two chairs. Plus, I'm a bachelor and it's a bit messy in here. I don't think she understands why I live the way I live, and I'm afraid that if she came here she'd spend most of her time whining about how drafty it is, or why she has to sit on a folding chair, or how I should organize the books I have sitting in a container in the middle of the "living room". I don't feel like hearing that.
Although I've explained to her the reasons why I'm not ready for her to visit just yet (I'd like for us to learn more about each other first, anyway), she keeps suggesting that she come here. And each time I tell her no. I think she's probably growing suspicious that I have another female around that I'm humping or doing who knows what with. But I'm tired of her asking. Each time she asks, mentions, or suggests it I feel like I'm being put on the spot. Don't quite know how to handle it.
She doesn't sound like that great of a catch. Next time pick her up and let her in your humble abode. Toss her a schlitz (sp?) and a folding chair. If she doesn't like it, who cares. Maybe you will get a bit liquored up, make some bad decisions, and never have to talk to her again. Good luck, my friend.
put away the beer empties, tidy up the pizza boxes, and go for it.
if she's so far up herself, and doesn't like it, she'll never ask again.
my g/f is probably way out of my league on paper.
when she met me, i was a bit overweight, i live in a run down scheme, in a dead end job.
i've been in my flat for 8 years, and still didn't have lampshades!!
i thought i'd never be able to catch her, but she looked past it all.
this girl either keeps asking because she's real curious why you keep saying no, or she's just really into you and wants to see you.
She also may want some "quiet time" with you at your place. You didn't mention her living arrangements, that may be the reason she wants to go to your's. She also seems comfortable with you after two dates. What's the worst that can happen? She doesn't like your place. From my perspective she wants to move the relationship along.
I've been talking to a young lady for a little over a month now. We've been on two dates and were planning a third one tomorrow since we're off of work. She has mentioned coming to my place in the past, and I insisted that I wasn't ready for her to come here. She doesn't have a car and has on several occasions suggested that I come pick her up, bring her here, and drive her back, to which my reply was a snappy "Hell Naw!" Granted, I live in Baltimore. She lives in Lorton, Va. That's 1 hr, 10 mins one way IF I-95 and Capital Beltway are clear.
Some background: she's 22, I'm 27. She's a bit spoiled, parents support her financially (she's a non-paid intern from NY), she went to a prestigious school. etc. I'm currently living below my means to pay off school debt and save up money. I've worked and paid for just about everything I have, and am very humble. She's a bit pretentious. I live in a not-so-great (but good enough for me, temporarily) one bedroom apartment here in Baltimore. I purposely kept it relatively unfurnished. I have a bed, a table, and two chairs. Plus, I'm a bachelor and it's a bit messy in here. I don't think she understands why I live the way I live, and I'm afraid that if she came here she'd spend most of her time whining about how drafty it is, or why she has to sit on a folding chair, or how I should organize the books I have sitting in a container in the middle of the "living room". I don't feel like hearing that.
Although I've explained to her the reasons why I'm not ready for her to visit just yet (I'd like for us to learn more about each other first, anyway), she keeps suggesting that she come here. And each time I tell her no. I think she's probably growing suspicious that I have another female around that I'm humping or doing who knows what with. But I'm tired of her asking. Each time she asks, mentions, or suggests it I feel like I'm being put on the spot. Don't quite know how to handle it.
She's young, and probably wants some nookie from you. Whatever the reason, just slow her down. The car situation...hmmm..there's a bus or train? I can't comment that much on that because I live in California. I would date someone closer to your age and someone that has their sh-- together. She is still in that " My parents pay for everything" mode and she will be like that until she grows up. She must be hot looking if your willing to put up with that....don't complain...
You sound a little ashamed about the way you live and you shouldn't. You are paying back debt, saving and living in a way that allows you to do that quicker. Invite her over and if she whines or complains then you know all you need to about her. It does sound like you already do though.
You sound a little ashamed about the way you live and you shouldn't. You are paying back debt, saving and living in a way that allows you to do that quicker. Invite her over and if she whines or complains then you know all you need to about her. It does sound like you already do though.
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