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My boyfriend likes text messaging, most of the time. I say most of the time becasue he , of course, doesn't like it when it seems nagging. We have not been getting along lately. he says he is trying to make it work and we are very active if you know what I mean and he is very affectionate, (he is just an affectionate person, I don't put any meaning into it becasue I have been "fooled" by affectionate men before.) but I am not sure he is really trying. I guess I want to text to see if he responds to me, almost like an indicator of how he's feeling. Or should I leave it alone, give him space and he can text me on his own when he feels like it? It means a lot to me, do I take a chance and it will hurt if he doesn't respond or (and I know someone will probably say don't give him so much power over you emotions) happy if he does.
If you are having communication problems with your boyfriend, texting is about the worst thing you can do to improve things. Honestly, there is way too much texting going on in place of actual conversations. It's meant for brief messages like "meet me at our favorite place at noon" not for discussing where things have gone wrong or to argue. Start talking to one another more, and texting less.
It depends on the indivudual. I have quite a few girlfriendswho are taciturn about texting (either one-liners or worse, a yes or no) yet they happily chat when face-to-face. I myself love the short message service(sms) and would have commited suicide or mass murder without it
Im just looking for reassurance, not a conversation. I say hi, he says it back. He is working , but he has the sort of job he can do whatever he likes. Still, , I don't want to be irritating, like oh she wants me to stop and text (even though hi takes 2 seconds.) It would make my day (yes, Ive been told Im lame) to get a hello from him , even if it's in response to one Ive sent. But also would hurt me if I got no response becasue this man literally used to send me 6 texts in an hour , on occasion.
Im just looking for reassurance, not a conversation. I say hi, he says it back. He is working , but he has the sort of job he can do whatever he likes. Still, , I don't want to be irritating, like oh she wants me to stop and text (even though hi takes 2 seconds.) It would make my day (yes, Ive been told Im lame) to get a hello from him , even if it's in response to one Ive sent. But also would hurt me if I got no response becasue this man literally used to send me 6 texts in an hour , on occasion.
Please, please don't text him.
Look, don't take it the wrong way, I don't want to hurt your feelings, and I do like you, but you sound sooooo clingy. Just give it a rest. Every single thing you wrote indicates that you need to just stop obsessing and over-analyzing everything he does/says and start living your life.
I had never ever in my life chased men. In fact, I always knew that if a man really wants me, he will show up. Men are not like women, on a general, don't sit and obssess over calling/texting etc... Majority of men live their lives, they work, they think about making money, hanging out with the boys, etc... You need to gain the confidence, that if a man wants you, he will come back again and again to be with you. Some men do that even when you push them away. Stop reaching out yourself and give him a chance to reach out to you. If he doesn't, then he just doesn't want you that much.
So by not texting, he may want me more? What can I do to make him want me again? I won't text.
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Originally Posted by max's mama
Please, please don't text him.
Look, don't take it the wrong way, I don't want to hurt your feelings, and I do like you, but you sound sooooo clingy. Just give it a rest. Every single thing you wrote indicates that you need to just stop obsessing and over-analyzing everything he does/says and start living your life.
I had never ever in my life chased men. In fact, I always knew that if a man really wants me, he will show up. Men are not like women, on a general, don't sit and obssess over calling/texting etc... Majority of men live their lives, they work, they think about making money, hanging out with the boys, etc... You need to gain the confidence, that if a man wants you, he will come back again and again to be with you. Some men do that even when you push them away. Stop reaching out yourself and give him a chance to reach out to you. If he doesn't, then he just doesn't want you that much.
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I myself love the short message service(sms) and would have commited suicide or mass murder without it
