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Old 11-11-2009, 10:28 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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Default When your partner is a great partner in every way, except in the sex department

I had this discussion with a friend the other night.

This is just one reason people cheat. So, what does one do when their partner is a dud? He/she is great in every other area, they may or may not have kids and, in weighing things out, the sex issue is not a good enough reason to end the relationship or to not get married, right? But it IS a problem.

How would you handle it if after all the talks and effort, it became clear that things were not going to change/go back to what they once were?
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Old 11-11-2009, 10:49 PM
 
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I think it is a reason to end the relationship, if as you sayafter all the talk and effort it doesn't change. if children are involved there maybe other considerations. but in a relationship without children you should be sexually compatible.
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Old 11-11-2009, 10:50 PM
 
Location: Arkansas
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I wouldn't marry someone who was not good in bed. Just being honest. I think that sex is important in any relationship and if the sex is not good, then there are going to be issues. This is not to say that if a couple has great sex that there will be no issues in a relationship, but to me, it's important! Just my opinion!
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Old 11-11-2009, 11:10 PM
 
Location: Miami
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People... this is why you AT LEAST take your clothes off and attempt to make some kind of love around the 3rd or 4th time you see each other.

Right dvcgal? You're on my side, huh?

If ain't working after a few times you tried, than DO NOT continue hoping he/she will change.

Move on!
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Old 11-11-2009, 11:16 PM
 
Location: Arkansas
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People... this is why you AT LEAST take your clothes off and attempt to make some kind of love around the 3rd or 4th time you see each other.

Right dvcgal? You're on my side, huh?

If ain't working after a few times you tried, than DO NOT continue hoping he/she will change.

Move on!
I actually am with you on this one! I feel like you should always test out the goods before buying the entire package! Sex is important in any relationship and it does matter whether or not a couple is having good sex or just sex. I vote for great sex!
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Old 11-11-2009, 11:18 PM
 
Location: Kentucky
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Ummm. what makes you think that they can't be taught? What is it they do wrong?
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Old 11-11-2009, 11:21 PM
 
Location: AR
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A man ending a relationship because of "bad sex" just sounds unrealistic to me.

Any sex is good sex. All we really need is friction.

And no wonder we have a 50% divorce rate in the country. This one thing and you end an otherwise loving relationship? (Assuming all other factors are fine.) Ridiculous. If you want something better, tell your partner and work at it. Practice until you get it right. Quitters.
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Old 11-11-2009, 11:22 PM
 
Location: Kentucky
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Unless it is like throwing a hotdog down a hallway I don't see how it can't get better
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Old 11-11-2009, 11:23 PM
 
Location: southern california
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why does a 1000 dollar hooker feel oh so good?
why is a gigolo so much more fun than a fat bald hubby.
bek relationships are not created in disneyland
they are created on the long crowded freeway out of anaheim with a fat wife and screaming kids.
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Old 11-11-2009, 11:25 PM
 
Location: Miami
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I actually am with you on this one! I feel like you should always test out the goods before buying the entire package! Sex is important in any relationship and it does matter whether or not a couple is having good sex or just sex. I vote for great sex!
I'm starting to like you dvcgal !!!!
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