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Old 11-16-2009, 11:02 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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True, why wouldn't they think they've got everyone fooled?
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Old 11-17-2009, 08:21 AM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I'm usually not good at reading other people, and don't get "bad vibes". Then again, it's safer not to trust anyone if you can avoid it.
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Old 11-17-2009, 09:05 AM
 
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both were the type who would give you the most intense eye contact
"intense" is a recipe for drama, a code word for "off balance"
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Old 11-17-2009, 09:08 AM
 
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Its the "crazy eyes" glitter that with bad people...its always there. I see it in a lot of cops too.
i remember reading that cops and criminals share nearly identical psychological profiles, so it makes sense what you say. they use it to different "causes" but i agree with you.

(whenever i hear "crazy eyes" i think of Jack Nicholson in 'The Shining')
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Old 11-17-2009, 09:15 AM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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Let's try and look at this situation rationally.

Take 4 options

1) Bad Person gives bad vibes
2) Bad Person gives good vibes
3) Good Person gives good vibes
4) Good Person gives bad vibes

Everyone here immediately states #1. When there is a bad person they give off bad vibes that I can recognize.

Let's throw out number three for this exercise. If that offends you, you can plug it back in at the end.

Now, if you claim that you can always recognize a bad person because of the bad vibes that they send off has any of the following ever happened to you?

You've picked up 'bad vibes' from a person that has actually been good?
You've failed to pick up 'bad vibes' from a person that is bad?

If so, I suggest that you quit reading people's vibes.

If you've either failed to pick up a bad person's bad vibes or picked up bad vibes from a good person then you can't pick up vibes.

And any person that you've decided to be 'bad' based upon your faulty sense of 'vibe' detection could have been someone spectacular.
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Old 11-17-2009, 09:33 AM
 
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If you've either failed to pick up a bad person's bad vibes or picked up bad vibes from a good person then you can't pick up vibes. And any person that you've decided to be 'bad' based upon your faulty sense of 'vibe' detection could have been someone spectacular.

Let's look at this situation rationally. If so, I suggest that you quit reading people's vibes.
no, the important, broader issue is recognizing and valuing and developing your intuition. Everyone has intuition, it is just a matter of whether we value it and take the time to develop it and learn to read it

you may not have yet come to the point where you value your intuition, where you recognize it, where you have developed it, where you have cultivated it

when a person ignores or discounts their intuition, they are missing out on an incredibly valuable resource and compass. They also live and walk in the world in a less-than-whole way, in an under-developed way, out of balance.

there is nothing "rational" about shutting down an important part of being human, there is nothing rational about living life out of kilter. i'm curious to hear from the poster above, what is your relationship with your own intuition?

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Old 01-30-2010, 12:32 PM
 
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I have been dating a guy for over 6 months now. And we met in college and now he has a job. There is one particular woman(his junior), whom I have started hating now. She is in his friends list on a popular social networking site and I hate it to the core. I always got negative vibes from her when I first saw her in my college. Seeing her in my bf's list has only worsened the situation. I haven't talked to him about it. She is pretty and seeing that a horrible picture of her and my bf starts rolling in my mind! My gut instincts have been right in most of the cases and in this case I fear the worse!!! HELP ME.....
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Old 01-30-2010, 12:46 PM
 
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You know what. I don't know what to say about that because there's been people that I first thought were pricks but turned out to be cool people. You can't just judge people from the first visit.
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Old 01-31-2010, 02:11 AM
 
Location: The Middle
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I trust my gut feelings about people. Sometimes I am wrong but most of the time I am right. I am talking about those bad vibes that someone throws off even before you know their name. I have learned over the years to be cautious around these types until whatever it is comes out. Sometimes it takes a while, just long enough for me to slightly doubt myself, then BAM, they show their true colors.
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Old 01-31-2010, 03:55 AM
 
Location: Somewhere on Earth
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Think this topic refers to the "stomach churning" experience when meeting the bad vibe person...

I currently have one and I try to avoid him at all costs...my friends don't understand why I "don't like" him :/
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