When someone immediately gives you a bad vibe (dating, women, personality)
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I have ignored my instincts and better judgment most of my life. Thinking back, just about every person I felt poorly about turned out to be a huge disappointment or worse. I've been learning, over the last few years, to pay attention to these feelings while trying to maintain a balanced approach and view.
I was away this weekend with the guy I am dating. We met up with some of his friends and co-workers. One in particular, a woman I have met a few times before, was also there. I really have no reason to dislike her; she has done nothing to me. But there is something nagging at me about her that I pick up on every time I see her. There's a certain disingenuous, sneakiness about her; it's dark. I've felt this way from the moment I met her. I don't treat her any differently and, until she does something to offend me, it will stay that way.
Can anyone relate? I'm not talking about catty, estrogenic pettiness or paranoia. Just really bad vibes. Do you believe in them? Do you pay attention?
A lot of times a 'bad vibe' is caused because the person reminds you of someone else. Or perhaps the way in which you met them is similar to the way in which you met another person who you have a bad memory of.
The human mind is really good at recognizing patterns, even when there isn't one there.
You brain processes millions of bits of information per second and compares this information to your memory to make sense of the world. If there is anything about a person or situation that is familiar those feelings will be brought up.
Think of the world as a big one of these.
Alone, it has no meaning. It is YOU that puts the meaning to it.
Yes, I can relate. I used to ignore it, but that proved to be an unwise course of action. I've learned that my gut instincts are usually correct, so I take note of it and proceed with that info in the back of my mind.
I have ignored my instincts and better judgment most of my life. Thinking back, just about every person I felt poorly about turned out to be a huge disappointment or worse. I've been learning, over the last few years, to pay attention to these feelings while trying to maintain a balanced approach and view.
I was away this weekend with the guy I am dating. We met up with some of his friends and co-workers. One in particular, a woman I have met a few times before, was also there. I really have no reason to dislike her; she has done nothing to me. But there is something nagging at me about her that I pick up on every time I see her. There's a certain disingenuous, sneakiness about her; it's dark. I've felt this way from the moment I met her. I don't treat her any differently and, until she does something to offend me, it will stay that way.
Can anyone relate? I'm not talking about catty, estrogenic pettiness or paranoia. Just really bad vibes. Do you believe in them? Do you pay attention?
I've learned the hard way, through many situations in the past, to trust that "lightbulb" when it suddenly comes on. It has yet to be wrong!
Yes, I can relate. I used to ignore it, but that proved to be an unwise course of action. I've learned that my gut instincts are usually correct, so I take note of it and proceed with that info in the back of my mind.
DOUBLE DITTO almost every time I ignored my gut it was proven correct. Women especially can be taken advantage of because we are taught to be "nice" when everything in us is screaming to "run away". I can always apologize if I am standoffish and wrong but sometimes the cost of being nice has been WAY too high!
My gut instincts about the new hires at work always has been right. And if I get bad vibes from a new acquaintance, I will be cautious around them and avoid them if need be. There are plenty of other people out there that don't give me bad vibes. No biggie for me, and honestly it doesn't and hasn't hurt those that I've decided not to associate with. Some of this is just avoiding future trouble and dramas, and other times it's just not really clicking with those people as in a personality clash thing.
I have ignored my instincts and better judgment most of my life. Thinking back, just about every person I felt poorly about turned out to be a huge disappointment or worse. I've been learning, over the last few years, to pay attention to these feelings while trying to maintain a balanced approach and view.
I was away this weekend with the guy I am dating. We met up with some of his friends and co-workers. One in particular, a woman I have met a few times before, was also there. I really have no reason to dislike her; she has done nothing to me. But there is something nagging at me about her that I pick up on every time I see her. There's a certain disingenuous, sneakiness about her; it's dark. I've felt this way from the moment I met her. I don't treat her any differently and, until she does something to offend me, it will stay that way.
Can anyone relate? I'm not talking about catty, estrogenic pettiness or paranoia. Just really bad vibes. Do you believe in them? Do you pay attention?
i think a lot of people get them. it's just instinct. which i find is generally correct.
i do get those feelings, and i am usually right. i just try to stay away from them to be honest. usually these people feel that i am ignoring them and they in turn become bains of my existence. but i just cant help it! i dont want these people around me.
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