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Imagine this: You're dating a great new guy or girl. He's tall, dark and handsome, or she is sexy and goodlooking and they make you laugh. But one night over dinner, They admit that they cheated on his last girlfriend or boyfriend . Is that a Deal breaker?
hmmm... good question... I would definetely NOT engage in any romantic/sexual or other wise emotional relationship with this person. Sure we can be friends... maybe.
I am not a cheater, never cheated and never will... I have, however, being cheated on and it sucks!!! it feels horrible and I would never want to be the cause for some other woman to feel that way... no way.
There is never a reason good enought to cheat... JMHO.
Last edited by valeeighty2; 11-20-2009 at 10:07 AM..
Reason: added a thought!!!
It depends. I don't think one lapse in judgment should condemn a person for life. If they are repeat offenders, sure. But I don't think all situations are the same. I understand why some people cheat. It is not always about deceiving the other person as much as it is finding happiness for oneself. There are many ways to betray a relationship and cheating is not the be all-end all of betrayals. I would have taken another woman over some of the stuff I have experienced, any day.
I also don't buy into the idea that no one deserves to be cheated on. I can assure you there are plenty who do.
It amazes me how some people become all self-righteous and work the victim role when they broke their vows long before the cheating ever took place.
Yes and no. It's a sign of *something.* It could be a warning to the person to not expect too much in terms of fidelity. It could be that once a cheater, always a cheater, and I tend to agree with this. However, there are exceptions to every rule.
I think if someone were to tell you that on an initial date (that they had cheated), that would be a red flag, since that really isn't something you normally discuss early on, unless they just want you to know that they have a tendency to cheat.
Some people are serial cheaters, yes. But others are not, but due to certain circumstances, may have cheated, and wouldn't do it again. It really depends on the individual and their situation.
I would definately say that was a deal breaker. I have never understood why anyone would date someone who had admitted to cheating-what makes them think they are so much better than the last person?
For example-a family member of mine cheated on his first wife with his second wife then cheated on his second wife with his third wife with plenty of affairs in between. I just want to take the third wife, shake her and ask her why in the world she thinks he won't do it to her!!
If this person is admitting on a first date that they have cheated before then they make be setting the scene so you are not shocked when it happens to you. Just my opinion.
Last edited by fay grim; 11-20-2009 at 07:08 PM..
Reason: mis-spelling
The only people who replied no to this poll are cheaters themselves.
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