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I do. The first instance of hitting or the second sets the stage on whether the receiver entertains them or discards them (passively or sternly).
Seriously? You're obviously not a woman and have no idea what it's like to have someone aggressively make passes at you even when you tell them to quit. You have some naive notion that men always stop when told to - I am here to tell you they don't.
It depends. If it was a minor and isolated episode or if he had been drinking, I'd quietly tell him to stop it and not do it again. If he persisted, I'd tell my SO. There's a risk in that, though -- the SO might side with the friend and suggest what AC did.
I'd bring it up to my SO in a joking or questioning manner, something like, "Wow, does Johnny always get so friendly when he drinks? or Was Johnny trying to mess with you tonight when he hit on me?"
I used to think just keeping my mouth shut was the best idea until one time the friend of my SO turned the whole thing around and suggested I was the one hitting on him. I was so outraged, but never really was sure who my SO believed especially since his friend told him first.
This is exactly why I'm a firm believer of pre-emptive strikes. The GW way
Would you tell your SO? Would you tell this friend not to do it again and keep it to yourself? How would you handle it?
I had a girl friend one time and her "friend" used to just undress me with her eyes right in front of her, she'd also make comments to me about how she thought I was attractive. I was like WTF???
I was pretty uncomfortable with it yet, my GF didn't seem to mind.
They must have had some weird dynamic with their friendship???
I do. The first instance of hitting or the second sets the stage on whether the receiver entertains them or discards them (passively or sternly).
It sets the stage for them to entertain it or reject it, of course. But that doesn't mean it was encouraged to begin with. Like people need encouraging. Some people are just pigs, all by themselves.
Seriously? You're obviously not a woman and have no idea what it's like to have someone aggressively make passes at you even when you tell them to quit. You have some naive notion that men always stop when told to - I am here to tell you they don't.
I was just saying (in a weird and unusual way) that the best (stern) way to put an end would be to let the SO know, failure to do which would make the hitting to continue
I was just saying (in a weird and unusual way) that the best (stern) way to put an end would be to let the SO know, failure to do which would make the hitting to continue
You wouldn't have to tell the SO, but threats.....
Guys that do this know how to turn the tables like their the victim.
Hmmm... you should make the decision that would be true to yourself. If you want the other person, then you go for it - and then you suffer the consequences so matter how awful they are.
Of course, if you're the type to cheat, why are you in a relationship, that's immature.
If you're not interested in the person, I'd have a serious talk with him/her. If I couldn't come to a solution, I'd tell my SO - but not to get them to do anything, but more to let them know why I dislike their friend.
It's irresponsible and emotionally immature for someone to hit on a friend's partner. If you are the object, it's your responsibility to let them know about their poor behavior. - if the attention is unwanted.
In many cases, the attention is appreciated.
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