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Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I guess almost every mechanic and tradesman is an abusive a-hole from hell now! The fact of the matter is, men get pissed off. Unless he becomes abusive towards you, it isn't that big of deal. Would you prefer he pops in a Snow White or Scooby Doo DVD when he gets pissed again at guy stuff?LMAO....... Geez, what is this world coming to!
Common sense tells most of us that if a person--oh please! regardless of profession--can't hold their temper on the small things, what are they going to be like when something big happens? I wouldn't stick around to find out and I wouldn't recommend anyone else do so, either. There are enough people with self control than to have to settle for that.
Common sense tells most of us that if a person--oh please! regardless of profession--can't hold their temper on the small things, what are they going to be like when something big happens? I wouldn't stick around to find out and I wouldn't recommend anyone else do so, either. There are enough people with self control than to have to settle for that.
I believe I read somewhere that your husband was a mechanic? Ask him if he would be thinking happy thoughts if he dropped a bolt down into an intake manifold?LMAO.......... What you don't know what goes on at work, my dear!LOL.......
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I believe I read somewhere that your husband was a mechanic? Ask him if he would be thinking happy thoughts if he dropped a bolt down into an intake manifold?LMAO.......... What you don't know what goes on at work, my dear!LOL.......
My husband could cuss up a storm but you can tell the difference between someone who just cusses and someone who could lose control at any moment and at the slightest thing.
My husband could cuss up a storm but you can tell the difference between someone who just cusses and someone who could lose control at any moment and at the slightest thing.
I suppose that is true! I'm probably more like him in that regard and it takes a real screw-up to get me going. BTW, if that bolt fell into a coolant passage or water-jacket, the whole engine could have to be pulled and tore down to retrieve it. Things like that don't make the boss very happy!
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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To answer the title question, I don't think character can be changed--as in someone change it for you--but I do believe people can change their character, if they want to. However, the likelihood of that happening, especially in situations like this, aren't good. They usually need to hit rock bottom first and even then they often just get worse in their abuses, unless they've somehow learned to stop blaming everyone and everything else on their failures and problems.
When I was in my 20s,I was madly in love with my then-boyfriend. He wanted to marry me, but deep down I knew I could never marry him because he had a jealousy issue. He would get jealous over the smallest things or accuse me of looking at men that I had not even seen walk by, etc. I knew it could never work. I think, in your situation, you know the same thing.
Once you're married, the duty to try to work things out and work through issues is a lot greater. Dating, on the other hand, is all about determining whether or not you're compatible with another person. You guys are just dating and you don't have a duty to stick by him as he tries (or not) to work thorugh these issues. I say you should move on and let him deal with those issues on his own. Good luck!
No, the way it works is: If he loves you very much, he will start doing some work on himself to get rid of his temper. That way you won't have to put up with it!. If he loves having angry outbursts more than he loves seeing you at peace and happy with him, then you've got your answer.
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The fact of the matter is, men get pissed off. Unless he becomes abusive towards you, it isn't that big of deal. Would you prefer he pops in a Snow White or Scooby Doo DVD when he gets pissed again at guy stuff?LMAO.......
Geez, what is this world coming to!
I'm probably more like him in that regard and it takes a real screw-up to get me going.
BTW, if that bolt fell into a coolant passage or water-jacket, the whole engine could have to be pulled and tore down to retrieve it.
