Overly spiritual wife, wrecked marriage, lost husband. (man, love, older)

[SVTLightning]

I think i would tell her something like "God told me I need to move on" and throw it back at her lol

[Ceece]

I think she is suffereing from a mental crack and using god as a plug. You are caught in the storm is all. I hope she gets the help she needs and you get thru this yourself. Sorry it's happening to you.

[Mr.Cat]

Tell her God told you to part ways with her.

[valeeighty2]

God... hmmm... people get influenced easy enough, and depending in your up-bringing God is a very powerfull influence. With that said... this sounds to me like she has no God to speak of but the one she has created in her mind to use as an excuse for her behavior. It sounds to me like she really needs some counceling, and perhaps, if she really wants a God, she could talk to her priest/pastor/rabbi/guru what ever branch she believes in; but she does need councel.

As for you... living with an over religious person is difficult, but you got out, all you can do know is take care of yourself, you have been hurt by this situation and it is your turn to heal.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by cricket_factor

Just because someone has religion, doesn't mean they have integrity or pure motives.

Amen to that!!





Sorry, I couldn't resist.

[Josh_GW]

Exactly, after reading her message, I fully see what was going on, and pureness, integrity had nothing to do with anything. What's more is that still she won't own up and see things for herself ( god is th only thing making he realize an change), there always needs to be a third party. She won't do muchin terms of our relationship for herself, without mentioning god or whoever.... My words an thoughts never had business there. I don't know how I can trust her anymore, after such a deep manipulative, controlling, and destructive marriage. It never affected her emotionally, mentally, and physically like it did me... Now I finally can see why. This hurts me so much, I don't know my wife, i guess I Never did.

[picklejuice]

Originally Posted by cricket_factor

I agree.

To the OP, sounds like she's playing Red Light, Green Light with you and God. Sounds as if you catch her doing something in regards to you that is not spiritually fit, she pulls out the Get Out of Hell card immediately and waves it in your face.

Just because someone has religion, doesn't mean they have integrity or pure motives.

I'm sorry.

That is exactly right! I dealt with that deal just last year. With a person who pretended/faked piousness but whose motives were as dirty as doodoo. The only god that person served was the god of self!

Don't get me wrong. I have had the wonderful opportunity of meeting a real saint a time or two. But those folks are rare, and few and far between.

And BTW, they usually don't hold up signs advertising their goodness. Always be suspicious of anyone who does that.

[Josh_GW]

Yea, I understand that no one is as holy as they claim. Its just getting to be too much, I dont expect everyone to read my other large posts, but hopefully everyone understands that this relationship has eroded in pretty much every aspect ...but with her bringing god into the picture ( AGAIN), that erases any possibility of me bringing that particular subject up...and its beginning to be like that for everything. Once she recieves her revelation, thats about as far as it goes for me, cuz after that, gods in control. But thats just it, we have been on a toxic steady decline and she continues to tell me that god is doing wonders in her life, showing her how to be a wife, where she is lacking, now all of a sudden, all the revealing of her manipulation, lies, control...but thats about as far as it gets, because all of these issues continue to surface, and she can pretty much push them away becuse god is real in her life, and hes doing everything thats needed. So I can never speak up on...well anything in her mind , since we hardly ever agree and well, in her mind, its god.......Im so drained....I dont even know.

[yellowsnow]

Originally Posted by SVTLightning

I think i would tell her something like "God told me I need to move on" and throw it back at her lol

Amen!!!

Josh, I'm sorry to say you have been thoroughly laundered. We are responsible for our own actions. Saying God told me to do XYZ, doesn't make it acceptable.

[virgode]

Originally Posted by Mr.Cat

Tell her God told you to part ways with her.