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View Poll Results: When you see someone flirting in the company of their s/o do you assume their relationship is lackin
Yes 9 42.86%
No 12 57.14%
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Old 12-01-2009, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Houston/Heights
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It's all about showing Respect, not about self gratification.
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Old 12-01-2009, 01:35 PM
 
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It seems rude to me. You are out with your boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse. Why do you need to flirt with someone else?

It would not be nice to be the other person watching your SO flirting.

If other people tolerate this in their relationships, that's their business. I know I wouldn't like it nor would my husband.
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Old 12-01-2009, 01:38 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Well, that makes sense. I've been in a relationship where my s/o's flirting lead to other things so I guess I'm a little gun shy.

Then again, there's the other side of flirting. Someone takes it seriously and responds and the flirt doesn't know how to get out of it or maybe likes it too much and, before you know it, one thing leads to another. I've been on that end too. Didn't mean for it to go anywhere but it did. So, I have a lot of gun-shyness going on where flirting is concerned.
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Old 12-01-2009, 03:10 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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If I was out with my SO, and he felt the need to flirt in front of me, I would get my feelings hurt. I`m talking about the real live flirting going on, not his mouth to me, about how Hot she is, etc.
I think its disrespectful!

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Old 12-01-2009, 03:16 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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To me there is someone wrong if you feel the need to flirt with someone right in front of SO.

I'm not a jealous guy at all ,seriously I'm not, but I wouldn't be with someone that did that.

I don't know if I buy the whole Oh, that just his or her "personality." We know when we're being flirty or not.


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Old 12-01-2009, 03:33 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I have a simple yes or no question about flirting. When I see someone flirting in the company of their date or s/o, I always think they (the flirt) feel they're missing out on something, that it would take very little for them to take it a step further. And if I were with the flirt, I might feel a little humiliated or insecure--I don't know, I'm guessing.

Yet, I know someone who honestly is an innocent flirt; they'd never take it further--if they arrive with you, they're leaving with you--but their care-free, friendly nature just comes across like this to everyone. They even appear to be flirting with elderly people. And they are.

So, my question is, when you witness someone flirting like this or they're flirting with you while with someone else, do you assume there's something wrong with their relationship?
Nope. Some people are just naturally more outgoing, gregarious or flirtaous, but that doesn't mean their relationship is lacking anything at all.
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Old 12-01-2009, 05:02 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Oh gawd. I'm somewhere between lovesmountains and chowhound. I'm so confused!
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Old 12-01-2009, 09:46 PM
 
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Can I have a "maybe" answer added in there?

Really, I think that with a lot of people, it's just their personalities, so I don't think too much of it. But, there is a line, and once that line is crossed, then I know that person has issues. When that happens, I just slowly back away - and then run.
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