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Old 12-02-2009, 09:14 AM
 
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Default When platonic friends go bad and ex's reseek sexus

Ok...There is all the other la la kindiegarden sweet pea crap about how its so cool to keep ex's as friends...Lets hear the mud people. I know you bitter souls have some shinola to sling down.
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I've tried it and it never worked out with staying friends with ex's. It was nothing I did. I just keep it to the "stop and chat" if seen in public. I actually find it kinda annoying when any ex tries to contact me personally. I never know what its going to bring in the name of drama I can't control.

Friends as guys...yeh..love dudes. But any male friends I have now are old enough to be my father at least. It seems to keep a buffer zone. In my experience with being friends of guys well sex always comes up. I was friends with a guy for a couple years. He got married and was moving away. I had zero feelings for this guy and thought of him as a little brother. Our last conversation was him asking me if he did not marry his wife if we would of been in a relationship. I was totally caught off guard by that and kinda grossed out. It felt like it cheapened the friendship. Then there was the random pull out the pee-wee by my roomates boyfriend who I was friends with, I cant even count how many guitarist i stopped playing with because they busted a move. That one ticks me off even more because I look at music as work in a way. I swear I can only hang out with jocks because they like tan girls. But I don't have much "friending" to really do with that type as the shared interests are of a small scope.


Maybe we all need something like those dishwasher magnets that say "dirty" and "clean" but for sexual advances. I guess the wedding ring and personal respect are not working anymore.
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Old 12-02-2009, 09:32 AM
 
Location: Europe, in the Land of the mean
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Horny group you had there..
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Old 01-17-2010, 10:15 AM
 
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Old 01-17-2010, 10:34 AM
 
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If someone is attracted to you sexually, they will always be attracted to you sexually, and the opposite is true, from both sides. Men and women can be friends for the long run; but if one is attracted to the other sooner or later it will get in the way.
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Old 01-17-2010, 11:58 AM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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If someone is attracted to you sexually, they will always be attracted to you sexually, and the opposite is true, from both sides. Men and women can be friends for the long run; but if one is attracted to the other sooner or later it will get in the way.
I disagree. We grow and change all the time, and so do our tastes! The guys I was attracted to sexually in my teens and 20's don't do a thing for me today - except for my husband.

And yes, I am friends with my ex'es and there is NO sexual tension or attraction between us.
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Old 01-17-2010, 12:01 PM
 
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If someone is attracted to you sexually, they will always be attracted to you sexually, and the opposite is true, from both sides. Men and women can be friends for the long run; but if one is attracted to the other sooner or later it will get in the way.

Completely untrue. How frightful that would be.
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Old 01-17-2010, 02:00 PM
 
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Well, I guess it's not always so. I have found it to be mostly true in my life, but then again, I haven't been around many ex-girlfriends from HS or college in about 15 years.
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Old 01-17-2010, 04:19 PM
 
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What's the purpose in making ex-s into friends that you would want to hang around? I can see having a cordial relationship but ex-s are ex-s for a reason and don't belong in the "friend" category - unless one is very casual about what it means to be a friend. Unless there are kids involved, then it's better to be a little bit friendlier than cordial.
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Old 01-17-2010, 06:46 PM
 
Location: Nowhere
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I tried to stay friends with my last ex but after a period of time it just didn't seem appropriate anymore so I cut it off. I could tell about 6 months after the relationship ended that we would be able to salvage a friendship out of it. We texted and spoke on the phone but there was always that intimacy like if the circumstances were right, we could pick up where we left off ..so, I broke ties. Too bad, I kind of liked having him around, lol. I guess there was a reason we got together in the first place, right? Even though that reason eluded me for most of our relationship.
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Old 01-17-2010, 07:51 PM
 
Location: New York, NY
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I tried! One ex couldn't let the relationship go and the current ex wavers between acceptance and rejection of the words "it's over".
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