Women being attracted to attached men (kids, affair, wedding, problems)

[aqua0]

Originally Posted by Bellino

What do you think of women who only want to pursue taken men? What would you do if someone (e.g. random person, ex-fling, etc.) was trying to entice your man?

Women who pursue taken men are desperate, lonely, and/or competitive. They rationalize to themselves all the right reasons for being with a married man.

A girl sat right next to my boyfriend (yrs ago) in a bbq and put her leg on his, and rubbed his temple. I didn't do a thing. He removed her leg and got her to stop touching him. It didn't matter that she was already attached herself. She was just being insecure and wanted to stir something up. To her disappointment, nothing happened.

So my advice: do nothing, and see how your man responds. If he is tempted, then he is weak and you're better off without him.

[nichirenx]

I actually have though about dating married women several times.
Have not done it because I to me that would be as bad as being a cheater.
The appealing thing about it was that I would never have to worry about her pressuring me for more.

[DeanACM]

[SIZE=2]--just because this is a mild rant does not mean it is girl bashing so just hold your horses..! I've got my helmet on anyway so you can just fire away


In my experience, girls always come on to you when you already have a girlfriend. It's like they go ''oh I can take him away from her" or something....? or, because he has a girlfriend, he must be safe...? or who knows what..

If you are a decent, attractive, professional, considerate, established guy -who is by yourself- you're usually totally dissed and blown off. You are automatically off limits and many times seen as something negative like a 'player' or 'creepy'. (one time I met a nice girl when I was by myself and she was with a friend and her friend was soooooooooooooo pissed!! It was like some sacred rule was broken!)

Yet even a guy who is a complete abusive controlling jerk -with a girlfriend- will have other girls take interest in him. ??

Ladies, do you believe the pervasive negative stereotype if a guy is by himself, that means there 'must be' something negative or wrong or unsuitable about him?

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[Mikala43]

First and foremost, if a guy is with a girl I don't give him a second thought. He is with someone.. period.Is the guy by himself at a bar or club? If it's a social setting, I will think it's kind of odd. It would come across to me that 1) he probably has no friends, or 2) he is on the make.Do you mean by himself, as in alone; or without a woman?

[ho hey!]

^ I agreee. I have a rule that I do NOT go near a guy who is taken or married. I don't know why girls do that. It makes me mad. Lack of respect?

If the guy was single? hmm...The first thing that would come to my mind is...He may have a girlfriend but wants to spend some time by himself? If the first option fail, then I think he's not looking for a girlfriend or doesn't have a girlfriend but still want to spend some time by himself?

[DeanACM]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

First and foremost, if a guy is with a girl I don't give him a second thought. He is with someone.. period.Is the guy by himself at a bar or club? If it's a social setting, I will think it's kind of odd. It would come across to me that 1) he probably has no friends, or 2) he is on the make.Do you mean by himself, as in alone; or without a woman?

I mean by himself as in alone. It could be anywhere like a library or restaurant..
It is interesting to me that both your assumptions about the guy are negative. -- no friends, on the make.. etc..

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by DeanACM

I mean by himself as in alone. It could be anywhere like a library or restaurant..
It is interesting to me that both your assumptions about the guy are negative. -- no friends, on the make.. etc..

/shrug

My negative reply was only to a bar or club.

Anywhere else is a lot more common.

[DeanACM]

Originally Posted by missvang

^ I agreee. I have a rule that I do NOT go near a guy who is taken or married. I don't know why girls do that. It makes me mad. Lack of respect?

If the guy was single? hmm...The first thing that would come to my mind is...He may have a girlfriend but wants to spend some time by himself? If the first option fail, then I think he's not looking for a girlfriend or doesn't have a girlfriend but still want to spend some time by himself?

Let's say he took a polite interest in you.. would you consider that creepy? Would you think something negative, like assume he was a 'player'? would it be different if he was not alone and with a guy or girl friend?

[DeanACM]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

/shrug

My negative reply was only to a bar or club.

Anywhere else is a lot more common.

If it was somewhere else more common, does the fact that the guy is by himself make you more cautious or suspicious? In other words, your view of the guy is different if it is in the bar or club.. vs. elsewhere..

[ho hey!]

Originally Posted by DeanACM

Let's say he took a polite interest in you.. would you consider that creepy? Would you think something negative, like assume he was a 'player'? would it be different if he was not alone and with a guy or girl friend?

I think I feel more uncomfortable and perhaps awkward rather than creepy. Creepy is when he won't stop bothering me and he's stalking me. I find it difficult for myself to converse with the guy who takes little or no interests in me. I'm not really use to it so I tend to avoid them. And yes, it makes a HUGE difference, for me, if he was with someone. A girl? I would think that's his gf or a close friend. Guy? I think I'll be more afraid. I would end the conversation twice as fast compare to if he was alone. Player? I'm done.