Ladys does your husband get upset when you dont "give it up?" (date, woman)

[missymomof3]

Originally Posted by Nutz76

The cold hard truth is that many women use sex as a reward system to control men's behavior. This is why prostitution is illegal in a society where abortion is allowed. (her body her choice, right?) It's also well documented that sex drops off after the men are locked in and the women don't feel like they need to secure their alignment, which is why many men such as myself advocate not getting locked into serious relationships, at least when you're young and don't know how to screen for women like the ones I'm describing. By keeping the possibility of walking away it prevents women from getting comfortable and having power over men by manipulating them with sex. While a crass article in its own right, the research he cites is damn good reading:

Relationships Kill Sex « Roissy in DC

wow what happened that made you so angry?

[Ameiko]

Well, wanting cuddling is looking for affection, a more emotional thing. There's nothing emotional about sex.

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?!?!?!

Seriously, I know you already answer the question but I will repeat it: what kind of sad sex life do you have?

Oh sure, sex CAN be just for fun to to say that it's not emotional (as in never) is just bizzare!

Sex is VERY emotional, at least with the right partner.

It's fun and hot and messy, but it's got nothing to do with feelings. Women want to know that they are loved, not just the nearest available sex partner.

Men want to know that they are loved as well and that includes loving SEX! Dennis Prauger talked about that on his shows: that women will tell him, "I don't need to make love to my husband for him to know I love him." He does his best to correct them but they often fail to understand how important sex is to men.

Let's be honest, sex is one of the primary reasons for sex, especially men. Why be involved in a "romantic" relationship with a woman otherwise?

The attitude above reflects why relationships are so screwed up- women will string along that "special guy" for months and say, "well I want to wait because you're so special." Is SHE waiting? NO! She's screwing guys on the side but that's ok because it's "just sex."

This is why I have a 3 date rule- no sex by a third date, you're getting tossed.


If she really doesn't ever want sex, though, that's a whole nother problem.

[Ameiko]

Originally Posted by missymomof3

wow what happened that made you so angry?

Nice shaming language and evasion. Is is simply the truth and claiming that he is angry does not change this.

[missymomof3]

Originally Posted by Ameiko

Nice shaming language and evasion. Is is simply the truth and claiming that he is angry does not change this.

Most of his posts sound very angry like somebody really hurt him

[Nutz76]

Originally Posted by missymomof3

Most of his posts sound very angry like somebody really hurt him

That's what happens when people are raised in a nobody loses, everyone's special society. Your reaction is not uncommon when people are faced with these unpleasant truths. Life isn't all sugary sweet as many have been led to believe. I recognize that reality and give advice accordingly, not based on idealism which is often what happens in relationship forums or dating columns.

[floridadreamer]

Originally Posted by missymomof3

wow what happened that made you so angry?

There is a point to that post, though hopefully not to the point being compared to a prostitute. If my SO did something to upset me, why would I reward that by sleeping with him? If I am really pleased because he's shown special attention lately, or something really good happened to benefit everyone, why wouldn't I go out of my way to give him "special attention" as well?

I'll admit a lot of women do take it to the extreme, but it is just like everything else in a marriage. If she gets away with treating her guy like that, of course she is going to keep doing it. Perhaps someone should try the same with her to see how she would like it if the tables were turned. No one likes to be manipulated.

[Huckleberry3911948]

women initially want to be held.
later they want to do a holdup.
marriage for marital purposes is usually over in 2 years divorce often to follow.
unfortunately guys are really stupid as to romance.
they think marriage is an extension of dating which is when they got all that great sex
the book on obligations of marriage has been rewritten.
the amazing part about "dating" aka steady non live in girlfriend, is that there is no 24 month
sex cut off-- it just goes on and on.
the girl friend might have off days, but they are just that, an off day, not a way of life.
temp is better than perm
ask any employer

[Ameiko]

Originally Posted by Ameiko
Nice shaming language and evasion. Is is simply the truth and claiming that he is angry does not change this.

Most of his posts sound very angry like somebody really hurt him

What's your point? You are still evading the question and changing the topic. So what if he WAS hurt and he IS angry? Does that make his experience less real or his viewpoint irrational?

I hear this all the time from women telling men who were divorced against their wills that they are "just bitter." Hey if man's wife cheats on him and HE gets kicked out of the house that he paid for, so her boyfriend can be moved in, and he has to fork over half his money for having done nothing wrong, AND half his future income (including alimony to support a woman as a wife even though she is not acting as a wife to him), and can't see his kids... yeah I think "bitter" covers it.

Stop trying to shame men and answer the questions we pose. Your irrational and illogical attempts to evade the question simply show a lack of reasoning ability.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by missymomof3

wow what happened that made you so angry?

He does sound angry; yet, everything he says is true.

[2mares]

Originally Posted by boredathome

sex should make you feel good, not be the casue of an agruement.

I get tired of looking at my wife's back every night.

She doesnt like to be awaken

Why do you wait until she is asleep to want to have sex?