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Old 12-05-2009, 10:01 AM
 
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i was having a fling with a man. He wanted me to go to his place one night. But i also found out the same day he ask me to go to his place, he was trying to meet another woman.

From that information, I didn't want to sleepover and told him no. The whole day he kept contacting me to ask me why not, he was persistent. I did not want to blurt out are you trying to **** other women while Fing me?!

I want to ignore him but i want to tell him why I don't want to see him but I can't pinpoint what it is. (one: i just feel he treats other women better than me- but I can't assume that and can't say that) I want to make a strong statement to him.
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Old 12-05-2009, 10:04 AM
 
Location: NYC
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Just tell him the truth - you aren't interested in sleeping with a man who is pursuing (and possibly sleeping with) other women. You don't have to explain why you aren't interested in a man who does that, because your feelings on the matter are perfectly valid.
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Old 12-05-2009, 10:11 AM
 
Location: NYC
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One other thing - having a "fling" probably isn't right for you. People aren't thinking monogamy when they are having a fling, so of course the guy may be looking pursuing other people. And don't even dream of trying to make a guy change his perception of you from casual fling to something serious. Nine times out of ten, it isn't going to happen.
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Old 12-05-2009, 10:24 AM
 
Location: My Private Island
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Why do you want to make a strong statement to someone you are just having a "fling" with? Flings are just that, no strings attached. If you want more, just tell him you deserve better and keep on moving.
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Old 12-05-2009, 11:22 AM
 
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to him, it may have just been a casual thing. I don't necessarily think a fling means a relationship.
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Old 12-05-2009, 11:24 AM
 
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Dam! You just passed up a perfectly good opportunity to get laid!

Oh wait...you are a woman. Yeah, demand payment or kick him to the curb.
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Old 12-05-2009, 11:27 AM
 
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But are you looking forward to a serious relationship?

If not, you should not care about the rest and least enjoy the sex with him as long as it lasts.
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Old 12-05-2009, 12:24 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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i was having a fling with a man. He wanted me to go to his place one night. But i also found out the same day he ask me to go to his place, he was trying to meet another woman.

From that information, I didn't want to sleepover and told him no. The whole day he kept contacting me to ask me why not, he was persistent. I did not want to blurt out are you trying to **** other women while Fing me?!

I want to ignore him but i want to tell him why I don't want to see him but I can't pinpoint what it is. (one: i just feel he treats other women better than me- but I can't assume that and can't say that) I want to make a strong statement to him.
I'll pinpoint it "Its easy to be sleasy".
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Old 12-05-2009, 12:27 PM
 
Location: The High Seas
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, you should not care about the rest and least enjoy the sex with him as long as it lasts.
How long does it last?
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Old 12-05-2009, 12:44 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, TN
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i was having a fling with a man. He wanted me to go to his place one night. But i also found out the same day he ask me to go to his place, he was trying to meet another woman.

From that information, I didn't want to sleepover and told him no. The whole day he kept contacting me to ask me why not, he was persistent. I did not want to blurt out are you trying to **** other women while Fing me?!

I want to ignore him but i want to tell him why I don't want to see him but I can't pinpoint what it is. (one: i just feel he treats other women better than me- but I can't assume that and can't say that) I want to make a strong statement to him.
A fling is not a committed relationship, so what's the problem here?
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