Introductions in a club setting? (marriage, guys, lover, dance)

[RazorRob305]

Originally Posted by Sprawling_Homeowner

Miu has not lost her laser-like accuracy or her verbosity...

miu ...you seem to have this notion of guys staying single if they have any kind of setbacks at all ...until they change them and work on themselves they should remain single?....well after they start dating im positive there will be conflicts too sometimes..and after they start the relationship there will be some issues sometimes also...maybe tell guys to go with the flow and not go out of thier way looking to date..instead of basically telling men they are not dateable because they struggle in an area....that is not logical...how many people you know that actually have everything together with themselves when they meet the person they are in a relationship with or when they find a person to regularly date?....there is something called love and attraction that doesn't care if the guy walks to work or if he can have the right pick up lines....but i guess you live in a place where you have to meet the perfect guy to date him....well good luck to the OP and don't sweat these chicks...u are at least making the efforts to go up to em...what have they done for you?

[miu]

RazorBob - Brown Leather Jacket is a horny young man that has no game. And sure, not every hookup results in a relationship. But after reading most of his posts, what's really sad is that this college graduate has no idea how to have a girlfriend. He's even said that when he's been able to date a girl for a while, he gets bored with her after 2-3 months. Meanwhile, even high school age teens are able to have steady relationships of a few years, with some even marrying their high school sweetheart and having lifelong marriages. So I feel that even if Brown Leather Jacket is lucky enough to score occasionally at a bar, he still will never know how to have a long term relationship. He doesn't even have a clue as to what kind of woman would really be his perfect lifemate.

Anyone can have casual sex. And most can even handle a basic longterm relationship of a few years. So I think that Brown Leather Jacket needs to catch up and work on getting a steady girlfriend, and not worry about getting one night stands or even a FWB. At the rate he is going, he's going to end up a permanent lonely and frustrated bachelor like TVandSportsGuy.

Otherwise, I work with a lot of college age women, and their idea of fun at a bar is getting drunk and being silly with each other. Not one of them is keen on going home with random guys for a one night stand. I know that they like sex, but they really aren't into casual sex with strangers like guys are into. And the only guys they'd like to approach them are cute ones that also appear to them to be great potential boyfriend material. They may joke about being wild, but they really are only interested in romance and a great boyfriend that they can show off to their girlfriends... and right now, that wouldn't be Brown Leather Jacket dude.

[Nutz76]

Originally Posted by miu

RazorBob - Brown Leather Jacket is a horny young man that has no game. And sure, not every hookup results in a relationship. But after reading most of his posts, what's really sad is that this college graduate has no idea how to have a girlfriend. He's even said that when he's been able to date a girl for a while, he gets bored with her after 2-3 months. Meanwhile, even high school age teens are able to have steady relationships of a few years, with some even marrying their high school sweetheart and having lifelong marriages. So I feel that even if Brown Leather Jacket is lucky enough to score occasionally at a bar, he still will never know how to have a long term relationship. He doesn't even have a clue as to what kind of woman would really be his perfect lifemate.

Anyone can have casual sex. And most can even handle a basic longterm relationship of a few years. So I think that Brown Leather Jacket needs to catch up and work on getting a steady girlfriend, and not worry about getting one night stands or even a FWB. At the rate he is going, he's going to end up a permanent lonely and frustrated bachelor like TVandSportsGuy.

Otherwise, I work with a lot of college age women, and their idea of fun at a bar is getting drunk and being silly with each other. Not one of them is keen on going home with random guys for a one night stand. I know that they like sex, but they really aren't into casual sex with strangers like guys are into. And the only guys they'd like to approach them are cute ones that also appear to them to be great potential boyfriend material. They may joke about being wild, but they really are only interested in romance and a great boyfriend that they can show off to their girlfriends... and right now, that wouldn't be Brown Leather Jacket dude.

All I see here is an attempt at shaming the OP because of his desire not to date seriously. Who the hell are you to judge him anyway? It's his prerogative if he wants to bang a different girl every night of the week, and if he's happy with that then it's all that matters and nothing you say or do will change that.

[miu]

Originally Posted by Nutz76

All I see here is an attempt at shaming the OP because of his desire not to date seriously. Who the hell are you to judge him anyway? It's his prerogative if he wants to bang a different girl every night of the week, and if he's happy with that then it's all that matters and nothing you say or do will change that.

Perhaps you need to actually read ALL of his threads and posts on this board. Don't judge him only by this thread.

[miu]

Originally Posted by Nutz76

All I see here is an attempt at shaming the OP because of his desire not to date seriously. Who the hell are you to judge him anyway? It's his prerogative if he wants to bang a different girl every night of the week, and if he's happy with that then it's all that matters and nothing you say or do will change that.

BTW where have I ever said that Brown Leather Jacket ought to be ashamed of his goals with women? And if anything, I DON'T want him to be a lonely and frustrated older man later on.

[eger]

I think for the most part women who get constantly hit on find it obnoxious. Yes some women go out to hook up, and they'll let you know it.

If you're looking for a gf or wife a bar isn't the place to find one.

[Nutz76]

Originally Posted by eger

I think for the most part women who get constantly hit on find it obnoxious. Yes some women go out to hook up, and they'll let you know it.

If you're looking for a gf or wife a bar isn't the place to find one.

It's a matter of perception. The women one meets are a bar or club are the same women you'll meet at the library, church, or grocery store. All that's changed is the time of day.

This explains it better than I ever could:

There Is No Such Thing As A Bar Girl « Roissy in DC

[smartalx]

Oh this is so not true. There are definitely "bar girls." I dated one and she was definitely different than the other girls I dated. She loved to get drunk and get wild. She worked hard and played hard.

I am particularly attracted to girls who don't like going to bars and going wild. Totally different sort of girl.

Yes, you'll find all types of girls at bars. Even a "wholesome" girl might be dragged to a bar once. You'll find bar girls and "nice" girls at grocery stores too. Ber girls might go to church too, but I would have to say they are only practicing their religion instead of living their religion.

[fleetiebelle]

There Is No Such Thing As A Bar Girl « Roissy in DC

That's the same blogger who argued that women were at fault for the guy shooting up the gym in Pittsburgh because they wouldn't have sex with him. He was just a poor widdle victim of evil women who wouldn't get over his pathological behavior and give him a blow job. So I'm not really going to take anything he says seriously.

[Thursday007]

Reminds me of the spoof on the old one liner, "So, havent I seen you some place before " and she said, "Yes, that's why I don't go there anymore."