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Old 12-07-2009, 08:34 PM
 
Location: 2nd state in the union...
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Default Dating someone with a criminal background

I've always been semi-curious as to what people thought about dating someone with a criminal background. I'm not talking about traffic citations.

So, what say ye about dating someone with a criminal background -
  • Do you care?
  • Do you draw a line at certain crimes?
  • Does it make a difference if it was 2 years ago versus 10 years ago?
  • Make a difference if charges were filed but they weren't found guilty?
ETA: This is assuming you know about the criminal record and recognizing that people commit crimes, don't get caught and don't have a formal record.

Last edited by wigirl920; 12-07-2009 at 09:22 PM..
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Old 12-07-2009, 08:48 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Yes, I was involved with someone with a harassment on their back ground, ended badly didn't realize it was there until I started criminal proceeding myself, hes got more than harassement on his criminal record now.
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Old 12-07-2009, 08:49 PM
 
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Yes, I was involved with someone with a harassment on their back ground, ended badly didn't realize it was there until I started criminal proceeding myself, hes got more than harassement on his criminal record now.
If you had known that before you started dating him...would you have still dated him?
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Old 12-07-2009, 08:51 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Whoah that is scarey.... I would not want anything on his record unless it was a minor misdemeanor.
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Old 12-07-2009, 08:55 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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I would have asked him what it was about, of course I wouldn't have gotten a straight answer, because he didn't know what truth was.
Honestly, I was nieve then and may have overlooked it.
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Old 12-07-2009, 08:56 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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Originally Posted by wigirl920 View Post
I've always been semi-curious as to what people thought about dating someone with a criminal background. I'm not talking about traffic citations.

So, what say ye about dating someone with a criminal background -
  • Do you care?
  • Do you draw a line at certain crimes?
  • Does it make a difference if it was 2 years ago versus 10 years ago?
  • Make a difference if charges were filed but they weren't found guilty?
Anything with drugs or violence are a no-no. Petit theft as a teen, not that big a deal. If they were charged, but not found guilty, I'd still be skiddish. I think about a charge of murder, or child molestation - OJ would not be getting the time of day from me.
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Old 12-07-2009, 08:57 PM
 
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Eh, I've dated a couple of felons. Their charges were drug related and from years past. You'd be surprised what people have in their backgrounds that you don't know about.
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Old 12-07-2009, 09:05 PM
 
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Originally Posted by wigirl920 View Post
I've always been semi-curious as to what people thought about dating someone with a criminal background. I'm not talking about traffic citations.

So, what say ye about dating someone with a criminal background -
  • Do you care?
  • Do you draw a line at certain crimes?
  • Does it make a difference if it was 2 years ago versus 10 years ago?
  • Make a difference if charges were filed but they weren't found guilty?
Violence is a deal breaker no matter what. Drugs most likely a deal break but it depends what and how long ago. Things like fraud theft etc probably close to a deal breaker. If they were over 23-25 it doesn't matter how long ago the crimes were.

Things like DUI, reckless endangerment t etc wouldn't be a big deal if just dating(or even long term without kids) but if I was looking to start a family I would obviously think long and hard about these crimes as well.
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Old 12-07-2009, 09:07 PM
 
Location: The High Seas
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3+ billion men in the world and you want one with a criminal background? Look elsewhere!
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Old 12-07-2009, 09:09 PM
 
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3+ billion men in the world and you want one with a criminal background? Look elsewhere!
Who said that's what they were looking for?
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