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Old 12-16-2009, 01:24 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL (Northside)
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Originally Posted by natalayjones View Post
Stop stealing boy damn how we talking bout good black men and you up in here stealing stuff


I've got the best of both worlds...I often say my bf is a mixture of Wall Street and Dade County Donald Trump meets Trick Daddy
What you know 'bout Dade County And the next time you disrespect a Northside Boss like myself, it's a wrap. I want an apology from you or there will be trouble.

 
Old 12-16-2009, 01:27 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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Originally Posted by natalayjones View Post
Stop stealing boy damn how we talking bout good black men and you up in here stealing stuff


I've got the best of both worlds...I often say my bf is a mixture of Wall Street and Dade County Donald Trump meets Trick Daddy

Dade County. One of my favorite places.
 
Old 12-16-2009, 02:03 PM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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What you know 'bout Dade County And the next time you disrespect a Northside Boss like myself, it's a wrap. I want an apology from you or there will be trouble.
Don't worry bout what I know bout Dade County...just know that I know and I'll send that apology via USPS
 
Old 12-16-2009, 02:31 PM
 
Location: Bayou City Megaplex
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First off I am mixed, black and white, so this is by no way a racist statement. I have noticed that *some* black women, including educated ones, have a hard time carrying on a deep conversation. Shallowness among AA women is profound. So much focus on image, not enough on developing the mind. You can have perfect hair, nails, clothes, car, job, but a pretty face and image is only going to take you so far. What about travel?(and not to Atlanta,Houston or DC) Politics? History? The ability to be diplomatic and think abstractly? I have two brothers (mixed) and they dated black girls in high school, but as adults, they say there is not much to black girls after you get past the booty and the beauty. Black girls are too worried about what men can do for them.

One poster on here said to try new things, and they were dead right! Whats wrong with trying Ethiopian food, or going Skiing, hiking, surfing? STEP OUTSIDE OF THE BOX

Oh, and whats wrong with White or Spanish or Asian men?????
In all fairness, many blondes (esp the ones I've encountered) tend to be the same way, hence the stereotype.
 
Old 12-16-2009, 02:40 PM
Status: "Be Kind" (set 5 days ago)
 
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And how old were you when you had this change in preference? The thing I notice is the age when black women settles for a "nerd" usually is the reason why they're seemingly "not enough good black men." You don't have the insurmountable preference for thugs and lowlifes from women of other races, especially Asians, Indians, and Middle Easterners/Arabs.
That's not quite as true as you'd like to believe. In fact, one of the things that has bothered me about BM/WW is that alot of WW see BM as being "thugs", and find that exciting and alluring. It's sad becuase BM who aren't thugs get passed up becuase a W/L/AW will think "Well, if he isn't "urban", then I midas well stick to my own."
 
Old 12-16-2009, 04:36 PM
 
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And how old were you when you had this change in preference? The thing I notice is the age when black women settles for a "nerd" usually is the reason why they're seemingly "not enough good black men." You don't have the insurmountable preference for thugs and lowlifes from women of other races, especially Asians, Indians, and Middle Easterners/Arabs.

Yeah and my problem is that I don't have love for thugs so therefore people think I'm stuck up, when really, I just want a nice clean cut black guy that has goals. It's a rare find. Well let me put it this way, it's easier to find a thug. I know good black guys are out there but you all are true gems that are just hard to find.
 
Old 12-16-2009, 04:40 PM
 
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There are good black men out there. You're just picky. I'm one of them. Depending on what you like however, I might be one of your rejects.
 
Old 12-16-2009, 05:15 PM
 
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There are good black men out there. You're just picky. I'm one of them. Depending on what you like however, I might be one of your rejects.
Not picky at all. I actually don't care about a lot of things that other women do. For example, height isn't an issue with me. A lot of women I know hate short men. Anyway, Black men tend to be overly defensive and don't want to acknowledge the problems they have. Not saying ALL of you have issues (because you don't), but a great majority of you do. And if you don't, you can at least admit that too many do.

You can at the very least see why Black women are frustrated. The high number of Black men in prison compared to other races is ridiculous.
The high number of black men on the down low compared to other races is just downright scary. AIDS is the leading cause of death for Black women ages 18-25 and they are contracting it from black men on the down low. A lot of black men don't have any goals and don't seek decent jobs. I used the word 'seek' because I know the economy is rough right now. Black men abandon their kids more than other races. Black men date outside of their race more. The list and discussion goes on but I feel like I'm badgering black men when what I'm stating is true. These are reasons why black women lose in the marriage game and white girls got it made.
 
Old 12-16-2009, 05:39 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Not picky at all. I actually don't care about a lot of things that other women do. For example, height isn't an issue with me. A lot of women I know hate short men. Anyway, Black men tend to be overly defensive and don't want to acknowledge the problems they have. Not saying ALL of you have issues (because you don't), but a great majority of you do. And if you don't, you can at least admit that too many do.

You can at the very least see why Black women are frustrated. The high number of Black men in prison compared to other races is ridiculous.
The high number of black men on the down low compared to other races is just downright scary. AIDS is the leading cause of death for Black women ages 18-25 and they are contracting it from black men on the down low. A lot of black men don't have any goals and don't seek decent jobs. I used the word 'seek' because I know the economy is rough right now. Black men abandon their kids more than other races. Black men date outside of their race more. The list and discussion goes on but I feel like I'm badgering black men when what I'm stating is true. These are reasons why black women lose in the marriage game and white girls got it made.
So, just go exclusively after men who are not black. From the way you are framing things it would solve all your problems.
 
Old 12-16-2009, 08:04 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL (Northside)
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Yeah and my problem is that I don't have love for thugs so therefore people think I'm stuck up, when really, I just want a nice clean cut black guy that has goals. It's a rare find. Well let me put it this way, it's easier to find a thug. I know good black guys are out there but you all are true gems that are just hard to find.
Of course it's easier to find a thug, and that's the kind most black women go for. They aren't checking for the respectful dudes, they want the gangster gold-teeth wearing, gun-toting type of black men. Good black men like me don't feel the need to advertise ourselves, we're on the DL (NOT IN THE HOMOSEXUAL WAY). If black men do get overly defensive it's for a good reason; we get tired of being lumped with the losers and when sisters complain about the lack of good black men, it's like we have to pay for the mistakes of the sorry-a$$ dudes who aren't about nothing.
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