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Old 12-14-2009, 07:10 AM
 
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Default In defense of extra marital affairs.....

This message board is full of stories about how terrible ex husbands, wives and SO's were for having an extra marital love affair.

While everyone says how terrible these affairs are, a large percentage of married men and women cheat on their spouse. There must be something that keeps them going.

So I researched the topic on the Internet and other message boards and tried to understand why so many married men and women of all ages, races, backgrounds and economic situations have affairs. This is what I found out:

* Most men have affairs not for the sex but because they are lonely. Friendships among men tend to be more activity related and are generally not that close, so if the men don not communicate well with their wife they need someone else to get close to.

* If they do have an affair, while the conversation is nice the sex is even better. Men and women who do have affairs report the sex is out of this world and a 100 times better than married sex.

* Life is boring and people want something new and exciting to keep them going each day. Something new to think about, something different and something thrilling and dangerous.

* People want to feel attractive and wanted and most married relationships do not make you feel that way.
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Can you think of any other justifications for extra marital affairs?
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Old 12-14-2009, 07:12 AM
 
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Put your wedding ring back on.
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Old 12-14-2009, 07:13 AM
 
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An overly nagging and negative wife...there are loads of reasons and often the person who has been cheated on is just as at fault, or more....it can be far more complcated than it appears on the surface, the cheating is just the final nail in the coffin.
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Old 12-14-2009, 07:19 AM
 
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there are many REASONS, but there can be no justification.

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Can you think of any other justifications for extra marital affairs?
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Old 12-14-2009, 07:21 AM
 
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It's a well known fact that extra marital affairs rarely, not always, but rarely, have anything to do with sex but rather intimacy - so you learn to communicate with your spouse in some manner or get the hell out. Based on the threads of yours I'm familiar with you seem to have issues and problems communicating.
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Old 12-14-2009, 07:32 AM
 
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There is no defense of marital affairs...not happy?? leave but don't take everyone else down on your sinking ship.
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Old 12-14-2009, 07:33 AM
 
Location: Hills & Hollers of the Aux Arcs
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there are many REASONS, but there can be no justification.
Absolutely! If you're going to have an affair, do your spouse the kindness to leave and divorce them first.

Stranded and Lonely, this is your third thread in a row, questioning relationships. If your's is so "challenged," why don't you just get out of it or, better yet, spend the time you're giving to starting threads to romance your wife instead?
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Old 12-14-2009, 07:33 AM
 
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there are many REASONS, but there can be no justification.
I totally agree. Also, if you have one nagging wife, your mistress will start to nag you because you're not spending enough time on her or enough money, or you forgot your mistresses birthday, christmas, whatever the occasion may be. So now you have TWO nagging women. Who wants more than one? Geez.
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Old 12-14-2009, 07:35 AM
 
Location: North Carolina
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Wah. Don't get married if you aren't prepared to take the good w/ the bad. Life isn't rainbows and lollipops, and neither is marriage.
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Old 12-14-2009, 07:56 AM
 
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and women do it just like men, trust me from personal experience, I could tell some stories but am not going to.....all will say is married women intiating cheating happens alot more than some people think
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