Why is the divorce rate so high in America? (boyfriend, girl, mistress)
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I think the divorce rate is high for a variety of reasons:
1) Children born out of wedlock are not exposed to marriage so they don't have a good idea on what a happy marriage "looks like" and this inhibits them from making good choices in partners.
2) Many people think it's a right to be happy all of the time in a marriage. Those who are married in church for instance, take vows "for better or worse". Happiness in marriage is not guaranteed.
3) Couples get pregnant and marry. Not the ideal situation.
4) Lust. Attraction, great sex life but not a good foundation for life with someone.
I think the divorce rate is high for a variety of reasons:
1) Children born out of wedlock are not exposed to marriage so they don't have a good idea on what a happy marriage "looks like" and this inhibits them from making good choices in partners.
2) Many people think it's a right to be happy all of the time in a marriage. Those who are married in church for instance, take vows "for better or worse". Happiness in marriage is not guaranteed.
3) Couples get pregnant and marry. Not the ideal situation.
4) Lust. Attraction, great sex life but not a good foundation for life with someone.
1) Children in UNhappy marriages grow up believing THAT is a marriage.
2)Being miserable and suffering all the time is not good either...people have a right to expect happiness.
3)Couples get married, pop out 3,4, 5 kids right away without thinking about it first...not good either
4)Lust is bad? Sorry but that is WHY men and women get together...a great sex life is part of a good foundation, great sex makes people HAPPY....
1) Children in UNhappy marriages grow up believing THAT is a marriage. Agreed. This is why people should make better choices in who they marry.
2)Being miserable and suffering all the time is not good either...people have a right to expect happiness. There will always be some conflict in marriage. People need to first make better choices in who they marry and secondly develop better compromising and communication skills. I think many people who divorce could have saved their marriages if they knew how to or sought professional help to.
3)Couples get married, pop out 3,4, 5 kids right away without thinking about it first...not good either. Agreed
4)Lust is bad? Sorry but that is WHY men and women get together...a great sex life is part of a good foundation, great sex makes people HAPPY....
Lust is not bad, but a good sex life is not enough to sustain a marriage for life. I've known married couples with great sex lives but who otherwise, did not like being with each other.
Because the stigma is gone, thank goodness people can leave abusive or cheating spouses without being shamed or worse.
I wouldn't question people leaving for these reasons, but I guess I would question why cheating in the first place (that is the immature and/or selfish part people have talked about here...the "I want to be thrilled all the time" attitude) And don't forget all the other divorces that don't have cheating or abuse involved.
People stayed together in marriage when they lived to be 30-40.
Now you live to be 80 or more.
Who wants to be with the same person for 40 or 50 years.
Many would just wish that they died young; divorce is so much easier.
Why is divorce so expensive?
Because it's worth it.
I think people in this country likes the idea of marriage and they are really fast to pull the trigger. So many marriages fail because parties did not think of it thoroughly in the first place.
Who wants to be with the same person for 40 or 50 years
MANY people want to be with their spouse for 40 / 50 or more years.
I'd suggest you check your cynicism at the door and realize that there are people who actually do LOVE one another - who would do ANYTHING for that other person - who meant what they said when married -- 'til death do us part..."
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Sorry but that is WHY men and women get together...a great sex life is part of a good foundation, great sex makes people HAPPY....
