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I don't think his preferences are stupid, and my boyfriend would agree with me.
And somewhere out there, I know that there are also plenty of men that would like her body art, it's just a matter of finding them. And it would have helped her to be more informative about what was on her body ahead of time to this guy or any other guy.
If she uses an online dating site, she definitely should mention her body art in her profile.
And as I intimated earlier, waiting for a while before jumping into the sack can avoid many complications ... which goes for both parties.
My friend said that once he saw the VERY LARGE tattoos he completely freaked out and rolled over and put his clothes back on. He got in a brief but very intense argument with his then girl friend, left and have not spoken since. He said that he was saddened that someone he thought he knew would be so irresponsible as to change her body for life on a wim.
He found her very unattractive physically and personally now and is no longer interested. Men are visual and he is not attracted to her anymore.
Those of you who do not have tattoos and generally do not like them, would your SO having a number of very large tattoos be a deal breaker for you if you liked the other aspects of the his/her personality?
My friend said that once he saw the VERY LARGE tattoos he completely freaked out and rolled over and put his clothes back on. He got in a brief but very intense argument with his then girl friend, left and have not spoken since. He said that he was saddened that someone he thought he knew would be so irresponsible as to change her body for life on a wim.
He found her very unattractive physically and personally now and is no longer interested. Men are visual and he is not attracted to her anymore.
Those of you who do not have tattoos and generally do not like them, would your SO having a number of very large tattoos be a deal breaker for you if you liked the other aspects of the his/her personality?
I don't like tattoos, never have, never WILL! I don't see anything WRONG with not wanting to be with someone who has tattoos if that is not your thing. A disproportionate amount of criminals, strippers and porn stars have tattoos, the negative stigma is something to think about.
You mentioned that it was 'his girlfriend.' How long or how well did he know her to call her his girlfriend? I mean those things are discussed and discovered during a relationship - so how long did he know her - a couple dates or a couple months. I would also be fair to say if she was proud of them she would have mentioned them early on.
I've got to say that I am appalled at the superficiality I've come across in this "relationship" forum. Thus far, I've seen posts where ppl were "not attracted to" or dumped somebody over: tattoos, stretch marks, too white skin, moles, and even a person who dumped a spouse due to a physical deformity caused by an accident. This does NOT give me faith in my fellows and certaintly doesn't make me want to run out and start dating again. I don't see how this type of behavior can be construed as anything but extremely shallow. Fine, you want to dump someone over _ _ _ _ because you are no longer attracted however, at least admit it is shallow. Yes, there are deal breakers and no one should be forced to be with someone they are not attracted to but, like I said before, at least admit it's shallow. Do these ppl think they are perfect specimines or flawless or that one day, just by virtue of age alone, that they won't, too, be unattractive? It just makes me sad to see how we write each other off so quickly because of some percieved physical imperfection. As for the OP, he obviously liked the girl enough to sleep with her, and then he freaks over a tattoo? I just don't get it. I'm sorry for the rant but I've always believed it's what is inside of a person, their values, personality, ect that's really important. Yes, attraction is very important but I wouldn't write someone off for something minor. It's funny, I've always been considered very attractive, I could very much afford to be very picky but I've NEVER been superficial because I believe that age is the great equalizer and we need something beyond looks to carry us thru life. My ex-fiance was 5'6, barely taller than me but I loved him completely yet, this same man freaked when I gained TEN pounds. I just don't get it, since when is it all about how one looks? So sad and very disillusioning to say the least.
I know a guy, Larry, who had a fetish for ladies with tattoos. In fact, he wouldn't date anyone without them! Then along came a married co-worker who had become his BFF. They clicked in so many ways and spent so much time together that it really was inevitable that they'd end up sleeping together. They had a long affair. She made him realize that there are plenty of good women out there, tattoos or not. He adored her so much that he got her name tattooed on his chest, right above his heart. Time moved on and so did she. Every time he looks in the mirror and sees that tattoo, he fondly remembers their time together. He no longer seeks out only women with tattoos. That's how much of an impact just one person can have on another.
As for me, I think they are fine in moderation. I look more to the inside, than out.
If tattoos are a pet peeve, this question should be put forth while dating as a kind but gentle question "Are you into tattoos?" and go from there.
I think that in this case, this woman should have been the one asking the tattoo question as people with large body art are still in the minority of the population. Also, in all other aspects of her current lifestyle, she appeared to be very conservative.
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