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Old 12-15-2009, 04:43 AM
 
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I know there has been a hundred postings about tattoos on this board but please let me up a new thread about them in the relationships board.

A friend of mine was always talking about his new girl friend and how much he liked her. He was waiting patiently for the right moment to get her into bed. Finally the moment arrived. But now, because of some really large tattoos he discovered on her body--they are no longer a couple.

Just when the moment of passion was hitting and he was discovering her body he looked at all her tattoos and lost interest. The topic of tattoos had never been brought up before and he just assumed a woman as professional, educated and poised as she was would not have any. He said he would not have minded if his new girl friend would have had small tattoos, but these were huge and looked like someone would have in prison or in a gang.

Since he got so upset about the tattoos they have not talked. Was he wrong for breaking up over very large tattoos?
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Old 12-15-2009, 04:49 AM
 
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Dude, you can replace the word tattoo up there with any other words "Huge Warts" "Odd Birth Marks" " Too much wieght" "Too Skinny" and still get the same effect and that is - people like what they like and don't what they don't. It turns him off - he moved on. She'll be with somone where it doesn't - all parties are going in the right direction.

Now if he bagged her anyway then didn't talk to her again - well that's kind of crappy, but the same assessment applies.
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Old 12-15-2009, 04:50 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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After discovering these tattoos, I am left wondering if he finished his "mission" or was so surprised by them, that he could not follow through?
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Old 12-15-2009, 05:03 AM
 
Location: Central, IL
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I can understand, not liking tatoos or large tatoos on a female, since everyone has their own personal preferences. But, I am curious as to why be upset about them? He had no reasoning to be upset about what she had done with her body.
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Old 12-15-2009, 05:24 AM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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He must not have waited too "patiently for the right moment to get her into bed" if he didn't have any clue that she had really large body art ...
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Old 12-15-2009, 06:01 AM
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Location: MA/NH
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I can understand, not liking tatoos or large tatoos on a female, since everyone has their own personal preferences. But, I am curious as to why be upset about them? He had no reasoning to be upset about what she had done with her body.
Her having several (not just one) large, ugly (I say this because they were described as prison style tats) body tattoos indicate a long spell of poor personal judgment on her part. If I were in that same position and discovered many large prison style (primitive one-colour) tattoos on a man that I was beginning to date, I would stop and have to completely rethink having a relationship with him.

If this woman thought her tattoos were beautiful and important to her, and this friend is rather conservative by nature or lifestyle, then it just doesn't sound like they would be compatible enough to stay together for the long haul. I applaud his integrity that he considered her tats a dealbreaker, rather than date her for kicks for a short while before breaking up with her.

And why should it matter to him? Well to a good number of people, both male and female, tattoos aren't attractive or appealing, and there is a stigma attached to them. Even with a good elaborate tattoo as they cost a lot of money to have done. And maybe this guy likes to go to the beach or there is a family swimming pool. Thinking ahead, he doesn't want a girlfriend in swimwear covered in ugly tats in front of his family and friends.

It cost someone I know over a thousand dollars to have a big dragon inked on his back, covering up a silhouette of an ice hockey player... and he doesn't like to take off his shirt in public. The only person who gets to see his body art is the occassional woman that passes through his life. In the first four years of knowing him, I never knew he had the ice hockey player tat. I briefly saw the dragon art last summer right after it was finished and it was all bloody and scabbed up, he was wearing a torn t-shirt to keep it exposed to the air. Gross. And now, the dragon is all covered up. Plus, neither tattoo was easily seen by him. What a waste of money.

Otherwise, I think that she should have warned him ahead of time that there were issues with her body. It's not the same as her having a small butterfly or flower tattooed on her hip or ankle. And maybe after telling him about her extensive body art, she should have explained why she got it done.

Anyone else see the recent episode of Bones on tv? The one where a body is found in a container of used fryolator oil? The subplot has three of the guys from the Jeffersonian standing in line to see the first showing of the new movie Avatar. And there is a girl cutting in line by flirting with them, and her opening line is to lift her shirt to show off her body art and ask "like my tats?" She admitted to having a boyfriend, but was willing to cheat in order to have a better place in the movie ticket line. Of course, this was a fictional character, but there is a wilder lifestyle associated with people having many tattoos.

Anyway, if I had a surgical scars or a masectomy, I surely would let my new prospective boyfriend know ahead of bedtime that I had them. Guys are very visual creatures, and I'd want to prepare him for the unexpected, especially if it wasn't something attractive. I think that massive ugly body art would count also.
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Old 12-15-2009, 06:02 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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I know there has been a hundred postings about tattoos on this board but please let me up a new thread about them in the relationships board.

A friend of mine was always talking about his new girl friend and how much he liked her. He was waiting patiently for the right moment to get her into bed. Finally the moment arrived. But now, because of some really large tattoos he discovered on her body--they are no longer a couple.

Just when the moment of passion was hitting and he was discovering her body he looked at all her tattoos and lost interest. The topic of tattoos had never been brought up before and he just assumed a woman as professional, educated and poised as she was would not have any. He said he would not have minded if his new girl friend would have had small tattoos, but these were huge and looked like someone would have in prison or in a gang.

Since he got so upset about the tattoos they have not talked. Was he wrong for breaking up over very large tattoos?

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Old 12-15-2009, 06:16 AM
 
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Was he wrong for breaking up over very large tattoos?
No, he wasn't wrong. He is entitled to his (stupid) preferences.
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Old 12-15-2009, 06:26 AM
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Location: MA/NH
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No, he wasn't wrong. He is entitled to his (stupid) preferences.
I don't think his preferences are stupid, and my boyfriend would agree with me.

And somewhere out there, I know that there are also plenty of men that would like her body art, it's just a matter of finding them. And it would have helped her to be more informative about what was on her body ahead of time to this guy or any other guy.

If she uses an online dating site, she definitely should mention her body art in her profile.
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Old 12-15-2009, 06:27 AM
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your "friend" sounds dumb
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