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do any of you singles have friends who always seem to push the relationship thing on you or make you feel inadequate because you haven't met anyone special yet?
First of all, I'm only 23 and yesterday when I saw my best friend after not seeing her for 2 months, almost the entire night, she went on about how she doesn't understand why I haven't met anyone (she says a "pretty" girl like me should have met someone by now) and how she wants to set me up with anyone she deems as "right" for me. I got out of a 3 1/2 year on again/off again relationship for good this past May and am just now feeling comfortable enough to start dating again. she went as far as saying how every guy who has approached me (in a club/bar no less who are at times creepers), I sort of push them away, when I've only pushed the creepy ones away, the rest of them I carry on in conversation with and whatever happens from there, is what it is. I told her that what matters ultimately, with me, is the chemistry I have with someone, no matter how "right" she thinks someone may be, and she still wouldn't stop. I am not surrounded by men on a daily basis, I live in a military/college town and we all know how both categories of men typically can be with the exceptional ones being hard to find. she found her exception only 6 months after her engagement was broken off with her ex and I feel like she expects me to sort of have the same luck. She claims she was trying to help me..I told her I was offended, as if I MUST be miserable because I don't have anyone to go home to, which I'm not, but I sure was miserable being criticized like that.
I'm getting to a point where I can't relate to my friends who are in serious relationships/married because most of them seem to have this attitude with me of "how can you be single if you're hot? you must be putting these guys off" or they assume I'm doing something wrong...they use those words even. Its beginning to be hurtful and they sometimes don't do things with me because they have their boyfriends/husbands to do it with and then they wonder why I can't meet people..I have very few people to go on outings with so I do everything by myself.
I know I can just ignore them, and I do, but in the moment when I'm faced with it, it deeply offends me.
Anyone else been in my shoes before? or am I the only one who's dealt with this at only 23 years old...another that's beyond me..but that's how it is in a town where everyone's married by 21.
I think you should do what you want, not what others think you should do. Dating to a degree is just a common norm, and nobody needs a date/SO to be happy.
haha, I do do what I want, but my friend disagrees with it, like I am supposed to be dating because she thinks I'm attractive enough to have men lining up everywhere. I haven't had much of a chance to do the things I enjoy doing because of all the crap I've had to deal with the past few years, so I'm taking the time to enjoy myself now and get my life in the order I want it in. It is the norm, you're right, and I do date, but I just haven't come across anyone lately that I am interested in. If someone asks me out, I'll go out, but that doesn't guarantee he'll become a boyfriend obviously. That, and I'm not surrounded by that many available men all the time.
Redneck-I thought it was a problem for them too! not a 23 year old female..meh..lol
You're only 23 and I remember glancing on the Menver board about your moving plans.
You have plenty of time, you have nothing to worry about.
Staying single in one's youth is fun, actually.
haha, thanks! I may have to cancel moving anywhere for now . Things aren't adding up financially and I'm having problems with one of my jobs that transfer...I was really excited about Denver too, but I definitely plan to go visit, it sounds like a beautiful place that I'll never want to leave! Maybe I'll meet nice men on my travels! haha..usually how it goes with me for some reason.
and you're right, with the right friends to cause mayhem with, I definitely have a great time being single. I just get offended in those moments where I get criticized by my taken friends.
haha, thanks Lady! My friend went through a 3 year relationship too, was engaged to him, and found her current b/f after 6 months. Her opinion is still that I have no excuse...but I'm glad to know plenty of people agree with my stance!
I think you should do what you want, not what others think you should do. Dating to a degree is just a common norm, and nobody needs a date/SO to be happy.
Seriously, it doesn't really ever stop, so you have to be cool with just doing what YOU want and not worry about others. When you ARE in a relationship, trust me, those same people will be the ones who will move on to "Why aren't you engaged/married? YOU NEED TO BE!!!!"
Wait until you get married. Then they will start bugging you to have kids. It's so annoying.
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. Things aren't adding up financially and I'm having problems with one of my jobs that transfer...I was really excited about Denver too, but I definitely plan to go visit, it sounds like a beautiful place that I'll never want to leave! Maybe I'll meet nice men on my travels! haha..usually how it goes with me for some reason. 
