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Well, I'm posting this here because this is the closest sub-forum to my question.
My roommate and I are having a disagreement about texting other people when we are hanging out with each other.
When he and I are just "hanging out" with each other (shooting pool, going bowling, etc) is it appropriate for him to be constantly texting other people?
Be aware: I'm not talking about when we are at the house together. (In fact, due to our schedules, that doesn't happen that often) I am talking about when we are out together shooting pool or bowling, which is pretty much all we do together and is initiated by him 99% of the time. (And lasts 3-5 hours/night 1-2 nights per week)
I am not talking about texting people that we both know. Most of the people he texts are friends of his that I may have met 1-2 times but they are not my or our friends...they are his friends.
There is a bit of a generation gap. He's 23 and I'm 42. He's a former foster child and hasn't had much guidance growing up. (He'll readily admit that too). He looks up to me as a mentor and a role model. I just get along with him (and I don't really know why ). There is nothing sexual between us.
Anyway, I want to see what you all think and am attaching a poll.
Are you romantically interested in your roommate? I'm guilty of texting while I'm out..even though I try to keep it at a minimum but I do it anyway....usually I'll tell the other person who I'm texting and give snippets of the convo or I'll tell the person I'm texting I'm out and I'll call them later.
It doesn't bother when other people do it either....but not much bothers me anyway so I'm prob the wrong person to ask...I shouldn't have responded...delete delete delete
It's incredibly rude and boorish and if I were to be in that situation and the person wouldn't stop doing it even after I asked them I wouldn't go out with them again.
Texting is equivalent to answering your cell phone, to me. If it's necessary (like your boss, your mom, an emergency etc), then yes, text away/answer. Otherwise, it's just rude and shows the other person that they aren't worth your full attention/time.
However, if the person excuses the action like they would if they took a phone call or something like that, I wouldn't be offended by that. Bouncing back and forth between text messages and hanging out, though, is definitely rude.
It's incredibly rude and boorish and if I were to be in that situation and the person wouldn't stop doing it even after I asked them I wouldn't go out with them again.
Agreed. Why should I spend my valuable time watching someone else use a device when I want to have a conversation with them?
One good thing can be said about my family - we all have cellphones, but when it comes to meal time, none of us subject the others to this kind of behavior.
I think texting is contributing to some generations losing their personalities - all one sees nowadays are these people in public with their necks down, focused on their phones, no expressions on their faces, no enthusiasm. Transfixed! Tunnel vision.
What I want to know is, how did they tear away from the phones in the first place to make friends to text with?
I'll answer a text, or at least look at it when I'm hanging out. However, I don't get a lot of texts, so it isn't an issue. Why do so many people text him?
To answer natalyjones question: No. I am not romantically interested in him. I don't even know why and how we get along so well because we are just so opposite in so many ways.
He is almost desperate to have a girlfriend so he posts ads on craigslist, and other dating websites. He also has an account on myspace, myyearbook and many other social networking sites...I can't think of them all. When he's at home he is IMing almost all of the time and that is how he is meeting almost everybody. But the issue isn't when he's at home as our schedule is different enough where we're not at home at the same time that often.
He has met a few friends at work, which is where he gets other people texting him.
Texting is equivalent to answering your cell phone, to me. If it's necessary (like your boss, your mom, an emergency etc), then yes, text away/answer. Otherwise, it's just rude and shows the other person that they aren't worth your full attention/time.
I agree. I don't mind if you look at your phone once or twice during the evening to see if you missed any calls, or if you answer something important. Interrupting me or what we're doing to answer some random call? Very rude. Pretty much a dealbreaker.
67 views but only 8 votes??? I'm hoping to get a few more votes just to have a better general census on the issue.
Comments always welcome but the votes on the graph is what I'm really after.
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). There is nothing sexual between us.
