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Its kind of funny how online dating still has all these negative connotations about it even when it has exploded with millions and millions of users. While it may be a rest haven for "big girls" I would say online dating is being used by many people these days...large, small, black, white, purple, etc. you get my drift.
Online dating is simply another way for two people to meet. It has its pros and cons like every other dating outlet. If you're against it then simply don't use it. Personally I'm intrigued by the idea of knowing a lot about the person before you actually meet them in person. Some people don't like doing it this way and some do.
The reason why the majority of women on dating sites are overweight is because the majority of Americans are overweight! That's the state of the dating pool today!
Online dating saves a lot of time and you can get to the point (I am this and that, I like this and that, I am looking for this and that, otherwise don't waste your time and mine). Many people can hardly find the free time and energy to spend in the "real life" dating scene.
As for the "rest haven for big girls" topic... I'm not sure there are more big people there than there are anywhere else, but I'd guess many individuals find it easier to express themselves over the Internet, where they have a perfect chance not to be judged by their looks alone.
Do you think that the main reason a lot of women are single is because of the weight issue?
No. That cannot be the main reason when you look at the "condition" of the vast majority of married and child bearing women, which is overweight to some extent.
Actually I know a lot of single, very bitter women who are rail thin. What happened to them? Should they be automatically married because they are thin? I think their bitterness stems from being sold a bill of goods from gay fashion designers and other women that "if you are thin you are perfect and deserve everything" because if you wanna see looks that could kill, next time you are in a restaurant that also has a couple (decent looking guy and overweight woman) dining, check out how the "dutch treat" groups of women sitting together look at them ... if looks could kill ... well you know the rest. A couple of years back a news reporter did an undercover thing wearing a fat suit. She went to a restaurant with a good looking guy and when she excused herself to go to the bathroom, a (thin) woman from another table came over and actually said to the man, "What are you doing with that fat pig?" She was outraged at the prospect that someone who was not thin was "entitled" to be dining with a good looking man while she herself was dining with another female like herself.
Most married women are overweight, either a little or a lot.
If the case is, fat women aren't marriage material, why are THEY married?
I knew someone who used to work in labor and delivery and helped deliver a lot of babies. They said, "Men will ^%$*$##^% anything!" Their (admittedly rude and condescending) statement was particularly against the fat mommies (and they did NOT mean women who gained a few pounds around the growing babies, but ones that were obviously very far gone into fatness before getting pregnant).
The "weight issue" isn't keeping these women away from getting pregnant, now is it?
It's not weight that is keeping many women single. My vote is that many women have high expectations of what they want in a mate and get pickier as time goes on, and then eventually before they know it they are getting too old to bear children easily and they become less desirable to even the men they "rejected" as not good enough to marry because of their advancing age. Then, instead of going easier on men, they are even pickier and eventually choose dogs and/or cats as substitutes for husbands and children because, to their way of telling it, "no man worth marrying was ever interested in me."
Sadly, there are only so many billionaire hedge fund managers to go around.
God forbid they marry the sanitation man who works for NYC picking up garbage!
PS: I am from the NYC metropolitan area, headquarters for single aging bitter women and I DO know what I am talking about. As a fellow female, many professional single women have taken me into their confidences and it is the same old sad story. "No man was ever good enough!" I have also had two women (one fat, one a workout queen) admit to me that they love their dog more than they have ever loved any boyfriend. Sure! A dog gives love you don't have to earn or deserve. A dog will love you even if you are mean to it. Yet that is the "perfect" substitute for the love of another human being for these women.
It's something twisted, selfish and self-centered in their heads that is keeping them single, not fat on their bodies.
Last edited by I_Love_LI_but; 12-21-2009 at 03:57 PM..
If the case is, fat women aren't marriage material, why are THEY married?
What are you talking about. . .
This is not about women in semi or midstream marriage. It's about the beginning, the meet - the attraction, the chemistry, the "spark" that ignites and motivates.
No one said heavier women are not "marriage material."
I dont hate my height im fine with it, its women who are obsessed with height so if youre a man whos a vicitm of that of course yooure gonna be at least curious about it..
Online dating its a fact height is a huge part moreso then even in person..
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