Would you tell her? (boyfriends, woman, call, friends)
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What makes you think she doesn't already know? After a decade I'm sure she does. It's also a likely uncommitted relationship after 10 years so I would leave it to them.
Only if you could get hard evidence, otherwise it would be your word against his and if she is as blind as you claim, she might think, or could be convinced, you are trying to take him for yourself.
You are so right. This would be the only way I could ever tell her. It makes sense.
I would mind my own business, but I would stand back and "watch the show." guys like this usually fall real hard sooner or later, and I would want to be around to see it.
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..while id work on getting concrete evidence beforehand, if necessary, Id definitely tell this person...even if she or he would not wish to hear about it...
At some point beyond the initial response or reaction to the "heads up" she will, if she is a reasonable person, see that you were doing the right thing..
I say this because ive been there..and ive also made the mistake of keeping my mouth shut...and i myself would rather risk coming to blows over the truth then standing back and allowing someone i know be used or manipulated by another...Even if we casually know one another..this kind of situation can bring people together simply because..for example, if a so called friend of mine would have told me about what was going on with an ex GF of mine, behind my back, we would still be friends...
Friends look out for one another...and sometimes that means telling it like it is..not always trying to keep the waters calm..
Regardless, this situation sounds like it wasn't a healthy one from the start..
I echo pitt_transplant. While I do think it would be none of my business generally, the potential consequences aren't something to be ignored. You're in a tough position here.
I would mind my own business, but I would stand back and "watch the show." guys like this usually fall real hard sooner or later, and I would want to be around to see it.
If you know a person, not a friend but an acquaintance, and the boyfriend of said person of ten years is flirting and cheating behind her back, would you tell her, or, mind your own business. She just goes along like she is just as happy as ever, she doesn't even have a clue. I know this because I’ve been told by a girl that he flirted with for a week then bedded her. Not only that, but, I’ve seen him at parties and the way he acts when she isn’t around him. This is a guy that is drop-dead gorgeous and he knows it. It’s like he wants to keep his girlfriend around, but play the field too. Yes, he has made passes at me, and it is flattering because he is such a hunk, but then again, it saddens me to think of her and the things that she doesn’t know. Seems like he is always the life of the party and girls just flock to him.
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