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Old 12-27-2009, 04:06 PM
 
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Default Telling a girl how you feel directly is a bad move?

Is it better show her that you like her through your actions, or is it better to tell her directly?
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Old 12-27-2009, 04:10 PM
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Is it better show her that you like her through your actions, or is it better to tell her directly?
Through your actions because if you do it verbally their attraction level for you goes down.

Take it from a guy who has done it verbally and she lost interest in me.
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Old 12-27-2009, 04:12 PM
 
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Is it better show her that you like her through your actions, or is it better to tell her directly?
A good balance of both.
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Old 12-27-2009, 04:12 PM
 
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Neither. Just let it happen naturally, if it's going to happen at all. Don't have such an agenda. Put yourself in her shoes. Once we see someone has an agenda we start wondering about motives. Our guards go up and we start thinking of an escape.
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Old 12-27-2009, 04:13 PM
 
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Ditto Mr Humble. Don't try too hard. Be natural.
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Old 12-27-2009, 04:15 PM
 
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A good balance of both.
Take it from a lady's perspective.
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Old 12-27-2009, 04:16 PM
 
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Natural like how? I mean, I'm still myself when I'm around her, and not anything different. Though I tend to put my arm around her sometimes and she doesn't resist.
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Old 12-27-2009, 04:18 PM
 
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I would never directly tell a girl how you I feel in the beginning. Most guys who have no game usually will just walk to a girl and say "You are very good looking" or "I find you attractive", the girl usually goes like "Thanks" and walks away.

Girls like guys with a bit of an edge and they like the suspense and the thrill of the chase. If you want to scare a girl away, just tell her how much you love and care for her after a few dates LOL
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Old 12-27-2009, 04:18 PM
 
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First of all, can we have some context please?

There's obviously a difference if you've been dating the girl for two weeks, two months, or two years.

Spilling your guts too early in can scare a girl away. I'm a big fan of showing your feelings rather than saying them. I've never told a guy that I liked him. I figured that he should have been able to tell from my actions and if he was still in the dark, then well. . . that said a lot about the guy's emotional intelligence.

However, words are nice to hear sometimes. Just make sure your actions back them up! Empty words are annoying and fall in the BS category and no one likes BS.
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Old 12-27-2009, 04:20 PM
 
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Is it better show her that you like her through your actions, or is it better to tell her directly?
You should always represent through your actions, but get a nice flow going. Don't be too overwhelming verbally or in how you treat her.
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