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Its interesting that you assume that there is not context to it. Why is that? How many buttons can one put on a joy stick before the hot selling video game is just too deep? I am also trained as a researcher and providing too much context spoils the objectivity. I tend to think my threads are anything but mundane.
I do sometimes wilt in admiration with droopy bunny ears at the golden eggs of intellectual behemoths that add to their clutch of brilliance "leg hair", and "jiggly jugs".
Why not assume? The psychobabble drivel is suppose to awe me? Oh please. I simply think that your thread in this case is totally mundane. Toss the droopy bunny ears and golden eggs of intellectual leg hair and all the silliness. "Jiggly jugs"?
None of this is this even worthy of a reference to a Monty Python or even a Benny Hill routine although jiggly jugs might be better addressed on Benny Hill reruns.
Kudos to you for thinking you're funny, hope you take no offense and may your career as a "researcher" continue to do well!
Do you think my gf's dh was using sex as a weapon?
No, thats not an example of using sex as a weapon. Thats a good example of a mental condition and laziness. The guy most likely felt eternal sorrow for himself that he couldn't get a job, did nothing about it, and then as a result had no interest in sex (and a number of other things I'm assuming). Thats not a reason to cheat or leave him however is something that should have been worked on for awhile by communicating and therapy if they are unresponsive. That would fall into the special circumstances category but not sex as a weapon.
No, thats not an example of using sex as a weapon. Thats a good example of a mental condition and laziness. The guy most likely felt eternal sorrow for himself that he couldn't get a job, did nothing about it, and then as a result had no interest in sex (and a number of other things I'm assuming). Thats not a reason to cheat or leave him however is something that should have been worked on for awhile by communicating and therapy if they are unresponsive. That would fall into the special circumstances category but not sex as a weapon.
As you have clearly established, it's quite difficult to ascertain when sex is being used as a weapon, unless you're telepathic.
I would never deny my SO "just because" and if my SO denied me barring a medical reason, that relationship would be over looooong before we got to a year.
As you have clearly established, it's quite difficult to ascertain when sex is being used as a weapon, unless you're telepathic.
First of all I happen to be telepathic but that is neither here nor there. That guy had mental issues, probably some confidence stuff going on, and was just generally depressed by the sounds of it from losing his job. He wasn't holding sex over her head to gain something, he just didn't feel like having sex. Two totally different things and, to me, very easy to seperate from one another. Sex as a weapon is only the case when one party has something to gain from the other by witholding it.
First of all I happen to be telepathic but that is neither here nor there.
Well, there ya go lol.
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That guy had mental issues, probably some confidence stuff going on, and was just generally depressed by the sounds of it from losing his job. He wasn't holding sex over her head to gain something, he just didn't feel like having sex. Two totally different things and, to me, very easy to seperate from one another. Sex as a weapon is only the case when one party has something to gain from the other by witholding it.
And the only way you could know the intimate details of another's sexual life is if you are able to read minds, which apparently you can lol, or if both involved told you. Either way, that's quite an interesting family you have to say the least.
And the only way you could know the intimate details of another's sexual life is if you are able to read minds, which apparently you can lol, or if both involved told you. Either way, that's quite an interesting family you have to say the least.
When you know people for 20+ years its easy to see when they manipulate one another...and most of these relationships are outside my family but I've known them forever. I've seen plenty of people withhold sex to get what they want, though they don't directly say it in public. The thought of my family members having sex is going to make me vomit now, so see ya later.
I would never deny my SO "just because" and if my SO denied me barring a medical reason, that relationship would be over looooong before we got to a year.
But there's a huge area between "just because" and a diagnosed medical reason. It's generally these gray areas that cause the problems.
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