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I think this isn't some isolated trend. I think this is a national and international trend that is happening to both sexes and all ethnic groups. People everywhere are trying new things like living single lives, childfree lives, etc. There's far less social pressure, stigma, and coercion than before as far as how others should lead their private lives. Black women aren't immune to catching the independence bug! I think it was a fallacy for people to believe every man and woman must get married and must have children, and that they must do it in that order. One day we could see far less people marrying and having kids but also see the kids who are born be raised better and see the couples who wed stay together longer.
Why does a woman have to be pathetic if she believes her happiness will be complete once she is married.Do we not raise our daughters with these teachings or are we doing something differently. We can teach them about careers, academics, but I believe that many of us speak to marriages and families one day. Should we do something differently. Do we not as mothers look forward to grandchildren, meaning grandchildren brought forth by marriage usually-of course knowing she can be a single parent without a husband/life-long mate and still be successful raising her child/children alone.
She can believe anything she wants -- what is pathetic is when she (or men) insist to OTHER WOMEN that they can't be happy unless they are married. THAT is what I object to, mostly because it's been done to me (a single woman) so many, many times and mostly by women who are in bad marriages. Women in good marriages don't seem threatened by the fact that other women are happily single.
Just look at some of the responses on this thread -- the references to single women becoming "cat collectors" -- and then tell me that anyone deserves to be labeled or spoken to in this manner. But that's what happens to strong, single women.
I am not racist but I have never met a black woman that I would consider dating in my entire life. First of all, I think it would be very hard to find a Black woman around my age(32) who does not have any children. I met a Black woman on a dating site and one thing that turned me off about her was the fact that all she liked was black stuff, black movies, black singer, black everything.
I can listen to rap and hip hop but I am huge country fan and I love classic rock as well, so the fact that she was so limited to Black-only things was a turn off.
Another thing that turns me off about some Black women is the religious thing, it seems like religion is a HUGE thing with African Americans but often, the lifestyle they lead is as far from anything Godly as I have seen.
Also, it is hard dealing with someone who has a "prejudice" concern 24/7, like maybe it is because I am not Black but if your partner is always complaining about racism and you cannot relate to what she is saying, I think it would be hard to have a decent relationship.
Finally, the dating pool for Black women is very limited, lots of losers, thugs and people who don't even know how to be faithful. And I guess, most non-Black guys do not want to date Black women because of the reasons mentioned above and many Black guys go for White women because they do not want to deal with that stereotypical Black woman, the woman with an attitude, "Motha****a, where have your ass been all night?" holding a frying pan ready to hit him LOL
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^^^^^Maybe one day you'll get beyond your navel and start gazing out at the larger world. What you wrote applies only to you and the few people you know. It's far from "the facts".
Art imitates reality. Behold. The attitude's universal.
Wow, just wow. One poster on a similar thread said something about there being a "civil" war between black females and black males. Based on some of these postings here on the forum. I'm starting to wonder if they're right.
There has always been a war between the sexes, but jeez.
I am not racist but I have never met a black woman that I would consider dating in my entire life. First of all, I think it would be very hard to find a Black woman around my age(32) who does not have any children. I met a Black woman on a dating site and one thing that turned me off about her was the fact that all she liked was black stuff, black movies, black singer, black everything.
I can listen to rap and hip hop but I am huge country fan and I love classic rock as well, so the fact that she was so limited to Black-only things was a turn off.
Another thing that turns me off about some Black women is the religious thing, it seems like religion is a HUGE thing with African Americans but often, the lifestyle they lead is as far from anything Godly as I have seen.
Also, it is hard dealing with someone who has a "prejudice" concern 24/7, like maybe it is because I am not Black but if your partner is always complaining about racism and you cannot relate to what she is saying, I think it would be hard to have a decent relationship.
Finally, the dating pool for Black women is very limited, lots of losers, thugs and people who don't even know how to be faithful. And I guess, most non-Black guys do not want to date Black women because of the reasons mentioned above and many Black guys go for White women because they do not want to deal with that stereotypical Black woman, the woman with an attitude, "Motha****a, where have your ass been all night?" holding a frying pan ready to hit him LOL
Well done! Pretty sly racist display worthy of Imus. Because you are not interested in dating Black women your "reasons" must apply in this discussion--except they don't. It's yet another example of one narrow mind imagining it's views are bigger than they are.
Wow a lot of people posting here have been watching a lot of Blaxploitation films.
btw, I'm a black who loves country music, mainstream films and things that are not Black. Of course, I still enjoy jazz, Chris Rock and soul food.
Not every Black person is completely emerged in Black culture some of us enjoy the best of all worlds. And a good number of us are intelligent, educated and very professional and good at our jobs and don't stand around talking when we should be working.
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I think it was a fallacy for people to believe every man and woman must get married and must have children, and that they must do it in that order. One day we could see far less people marrying and having kids but also see the kids who are born be raised better and see the couples who wed stay together longer.
Actually, there are some White people who live in BP haha
