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Originally Posted by beckycat
For men, why does being romantic always have to involve sex?
To me, a romantic date would be a walk through a park or small town, a horse drawn carraige ride, time spent in a hot tub with candles around it, and just holding hands and cuddling.
Why can't men understand this and not think it's just corny?
Romance can be sexy, or it can involve no more than cuddling. I think any well-rounded human being can appreciate both.
I've never dated any guys that equated "romance" to sex. Quite the opposite. I think when women have sex they equate that to some kind of romance or feelings of love; difficult for them not to become emotionally invested once the act takes place.
When I was single before, I often met guys who could be romantic, plan dates, etc...
I'm with Rakin on this, check the age and mental age of the males you are dating and go from there.
I think you have to really consider how important "romance" is to your life. If you are going to be perpetually disappointed in your man because he doesn't bring you flowers and surprise you with candlelit dinners, then face that fact and move on. Nobody wants to be a disappointment to his or her loved one.
I never read that book about "love languages," but I agree with the concept. Different people show their affection in different ways. A man may not be particularly romantic, but he might work hard without complaint to pay the bills and make sure you have things that you want. He might give you the better part of things, whether its saving the last piece of cake for you or buying you a new car while he drives a clunker.
This contains strong language, but I agree with Dan Savage.
For men, why does being romantic always have to involve sex?
To me, a romantic date would be a walk through a park or small town, a horse drawn carraige ride, time spent in a hot tub with candles around it, and just holding hands and cuddling.
Why can't men understand this and not think it's just corny?
We don't think like women.
Neither individuals are wrong in a sense. We all view things a little differently.
There are women who say those things are romantic but in reality it's some fantasy or dream they have. Once in that enviroment they tend to complain the horse's butt is right in their face and it's not like they thought it would be in a buggy ride....the candles are catching their hair on fire while they lay there in the hot tub.
If we would just value the other person's interests and work toward pleasing them everything will be alright.
the candles are catching their hair on fire while they lay there in the hot tub
Heh, when my husband and I see scenes in movies where there are dozens of lit candles in a room, we always make snarky comments about how long it would take to light all of them or how much money buying all those candles would cost.
"Sweetie, what is this receipt from Pier 1 for $216?"
"Come into the bathroom, darling, and I'll show you."
For men, why does being romantic always have to involve sex?
To me, a romantic date would be a walk through a park or small town, a horse drawn carraige ride, time spent in a hot tub with candles around it, and just holding hands and cuddling.
Why can't men understand this and not think it's just corny?
i was gonna get long winded about it but i wont. you can't generalize. some people are romantic, some aren't. yesterday i gave my wife a 40 minute massage with some very nice massage oil. no sex afterward, none expected. i wanted to make her feel good and i did. she's my best friend and i like to make her happy.
For men, why does being romantic always have to involve sex?
To me, a romantic date would be a walk through a park or small town, a horse drawn carraige ride, time spent in a hot tub with candles around it, and just holding hands and cuddling.
Why can't men understand this and not think it's just corny?
Honestly, none of these acts are romantic to me, but I also don't think they are corny.
Heh, when my husband and I see scenes in movies where there are dozens of lit candles in a room, we always make snarky comments about how long it would take to light all of them or how much money buying all those candles would cost.
There's nothing more romantic than leaving your guy hanging on the couch while you spend a half hour going around creating a fire hazard.
There's nothing more romantic than leaving your guy hanging on the couch while you spend a half hour going around creating a fire hazard.
my wife and i use candles fairly often and we both find them romantic. she turned me on to them and she also turned me on to barry white. nothing like a bedroom lit with only candles and a barry white CD playing.
I don't the problem is that he is not romantic... more that you have told him you would like to do those things and he has essentially said "no".
In all aspects of the relationship I do a lot of things for my SO that I don't really want to do, but I do them because he will enjoy it. He also (probably more so ) does a lot of things he doesn't want to do because it will make me happy.
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) does a lot of things he doesn't want to do because it will make me happy.
