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There has been lots of interesting conversation on this board about what it means to be a good husband or wife. And when someone should consider divorcing their spouse.
One of the main conflict points of many married couples is frequency of sex. In another post I told everyone I really do not have much of a sex drive and have always felt that the act of having sex was kind of ugly, dirty and unpleasant. It does not have anything to do with my wife, who is just wonderful, my feelings about sex would be the same no matter who I was married to.
I am sure my wife is telling her friends about our unsatisfactory sex life and they are telling her to demand more sex from her husband (me). They are probably saying that it is a husband's role to keep his wife happy sexually and romantically. But is that really the case?
Does a husband have a ethical and moral obligation in a marriage to have a sexual relationship? Just like his obligation of: being a good father, provider and communicator. (Remember, we can not fake interest like a woman can)
You absolutely give yourself to each other, who else are you gonna give it to?
Yes, they do if that was the agreement or understanding at the onset. Unless, of course, some valid (read: not made up) medical or psychological reason or your partner is a real jerk.
I don't think anyone is owed sex, but equally I don't think two people with mismatched libidos should be in a relationship. This is something that should be considered before marriage.
I don’t think that anybody “owes” anybody else anything other than the debts they have incurred.
I would also say that a marriage void of a healthy sex life would be detrimental and hard to maintain. It’s not impossible as a few posters on her can testify to but likely not as fulfilling as relationship with a fruitful sexual life.
It depends on why you don't like sex. Some people are asexual and this is pretty much a sexual orientation in itself. Some people just don't have the desire for sex but live very fulfilling lives.
If someone is ace, they OWE it to a potential partner to make that known in the beginning stages of a relationship and let the other person do what they will with that information. They also ought to be offering the option of an open relationship.
There has been lots of interesting conversation on this board about what it means to be a good husband or wife. And when someone should consider divorcing their spouse.
One of the main conflict points of many married couples is frequency of sex. In another post I told everyone I really do not have much of a sex drive and have always felt that the act of having sex was kind of ugly, dirty and unpleasant. It does not have anything to do with my wife, who is just wonderful, my feelings about sex would be the same no matter who I was married to.
I am sure my wife is telling her friends about our unsatisfactory sex life and they are telling her to demand more sex from her husband (me). They are probably saying that it is a husband's role to keep his wife happy sexually and romantically. But is that really the case?
Does a husband have a ethical and moral obligation in a marriage to have a sexual relationship? Just like his obligation of: being a good father, provider and communicator. (Remember, we can not fake interest like a woman can)
Living up to your screen name I guess.
Way I see it is if you’re not keeping your wife happy in ALL aspects of a marriage, she is going to go elsewhere. And you can’t blame her. I never understood people that stay in a marriage where some aspect of the relationship is missing. Sex money kids etc.
I don’t think that anybody “owes” anybody else anything other than the debts they have incurred.
I would also say that a marriage void of a healthy sex life would be detrimental and hard to maintain. It’s not impossible as a few posters on her can testify to but likely not as fulfilling as relationship with a fruitful sexual life.
A marriage without a healthy sex life has at least one miserable partner. Myself, I'm not into being miserable. Some people seem to really like it.
One critical aspect of any marriage is Communication. If you dont communicate your feelings, desires etc, you will eventually fail in your marriage. trust me.
There has been lots of interesting conversation on this board about what it means to be a good husband or wife. And when someone should consider divorcing their spouse.
One of the main conflict points of many married couples is frequency of sex. In another post I told everyone I really do not have much of a sex drive and have always felt that the act of having sex was kind of ugly, dirty and unpleasant.
You do have a point. And sex it not everything and really can't be the basis for a good relationship. I've talked to countless people who told me they had great sex in their marriage but divorced anyway. Some of them even continued having sex during the divorce proceedings.
The people I know with high sex drives have a lot of conflict in their lives, are often frustrated and sometimes get into trouble doing things they shouldn't. Meanwhile, mocking less sexually charged people as being "prudes".
....Some of them even continued having sex during the divorce proceedings.
You learn something new everyday..........
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