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To all of you in a relationship or marriage up to what point would you still stay with them?
How about if something horrible happen to him/her and they got disfigured for life (ex: a car accident getting engulf in flames)?
Don't mean to sound all shallow but doesn't physical attractive to a point matter esp. when intimacy is involved? Besides the actual physical drama, there would be an emotionally and psychological impact as well. It'll never be the same ever again so I think in this case, you should let them go but be a helpful friend.
To all of you in a relationship or marriage up to what point would you still stay with them?
How about if something horrible happen to him/her and they got disfigured for life (ex: a car accident getting engulf in flames)?
Don't mean to sound all shallow but doesn't physical attractive to a point matter esp. when intimacy is involved? Besides the actual physical drama, there would be an emotionally and psychological impact as well. It'll never be the same ever again so I think in this case, you should let them go but be a helpful friend.
"For richer or poorer, in good times and bad, in sickness and health - til death do us part". That's what I said, and that's what I meant.
I would stay with him and be his wife, no matter what.
To all of you in a relationship or marriage up to what point would you still stay with them?
How about if something horrible happen to him/her and they got disfigured for life (ex: a car accident getting engulf in flames)?
Don't mean to sound all shallow but doesn't physical attractive to a point matter esp. when intimacy is involved? Besides the actual physical drama, there would be an emotionally and psychological impact as well. It'll never be the same ever again so I think in this case, you should let them go but be a helpful friend.
"For richer or poorer, in good times and bad, in sickness and health - til death do us part". That's what I said, and that's what I meant.
I would stay with him and be his wife, no matter what.
20yrsinBranson
I totally understand your viewpoint but would only add the caveat that until and unless you actually go through such an experience (and I hope you NEVER do) you can never really know what you might do.
I worked at a nursing & long term care facility where we had a lot of young people who were seriously injured (head-injuries, paralysis) from accidents or had debilitating illnesses. I witnessed a lot of the wives coming in to care for their husbands, but unfortunately the husbands were never seen.
My motto "... in sickness and health - til death do us part". Easy to say. Hard to do.
When you actually find yourself in one of these situations, your outlook on everything changes. Are you really prepared to spend the rest of your life without companionship, without intimacy, without a physical and emotional connection to anyone? What if you want to have a family and now realize that now you can't? Who will be there for you when you need someone? Are you willing to give up your home, your posessions, you career, your pension, your 401K, your physical and mental health? Can you easily switch your emotions from being a caregiver one moment, dealing with all sorts of nasty human bolidly functions, and then the next moment felling intimate and sexy and making love to that same person? I think very few people can do this.
There are many cases that prove how long-term caring for a loved one can be detrimental to the health and welfare of the caregiver, and in many cases proves to be fatal.
This is a topic that definitely needs to be discussed among couples. My personal feeling is that if you really love someone then you should be able to let them go. I don't think I could live if I knew that my condition would be detrimental to the well-being of my spouse, and I hope that they would feel the same way.
I witnessed a lot of the wives coming in to care for their husbands, but unfortunately the husbands were never seen.
Sadly, I really believe that it's harder for men to deal with the isolation, the lonliness, and the lack of intimacy in these situations. Most of us don't have an emotional support system and friends outside of our wives the same way that women usually do.
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