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Old 01-02-2010, 04:16 PM
 
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I’ve noticed that a lot of overweight women, call straight men who aren’t attracted to them, “shallow, superficial jerks”. The attitude and sense of entitlement of these women, as it pertains to straight men, is something I don't understand.

I’m gay. Obviously, I’m not attracted to women. No-one in their right mind would call a gay man “shallow” for rejecting a women whom he’s not attracted to. Yet, it’s perfectly acceptable to call a straight man, a “shallow, superficial jerk”, for rejecting a woman whom he’s not attracted to. For the life of me, I don’t understand this attitude at all.

Can someone please explain this double standard? Everyone has a preference. What's so wrong with a guy having a preference for a slimmer woman? As long as the person is nice and respectful about it, why not just wish them the best, and move on?

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Old 01-02-2010, 04:36 PM
 
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This may sound harsh, but I have little time for overweight women who complain about being dateless.

I guess in life, expecting the world change to suit our well-being is foolhardy. Sometimes, we have to change to suit it.

Now, overweight women are second-grade dating material since US and Western society prizes slim as beautiful. This is, at least in modern times, how it is. So given dating attitudes of contemporary Western society, fat women would be lower in the dating totem pole than slim women.

This is where the point in the second paragraph comes in. Problems always have solutions, so what can a fat woman do? I can think of these things:

- Hold out until a man who doesn't mind weight/heaviness comes along. This could readily work, but such men are few and far between. It perhaps depends on how fat a given woman is. If a few pounds overweight, then it may not be an issue. But over 300 pounds, then..well I think she'll be holding for some time.

- Lose weight, be more active and eat healthier.

- Be a more open person, be friendlier, and smile more. Personality often can supersede looks, and it is not a cliche/platitude, IMO at the least. I've personally known women who at first meeting I thought were unattractive, yet at subsequent meetings grew on me since they were very funny, open and kind. Being such a way can attract others to you, since people warm to you and feel good around you, whether platonically or romantically.
 
Old 01-02-2010, 04:39 PM
 
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The "woe is me" attitude of many overweight women when it comes to dating, amazes me


This could go for just about anybody...not necessarily only overweight women.
 
Old 01-02-2010, 04:39 PM
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anytime i notice i put on a few pounds i burn it off quick. hasnt happened in awhile tho cause i exercise reguarly. dunno why these fat chicks dont just hit the gym and eat healthy instead of spending their life crying about being fat. in a few months they could be thin !
 
Old 01-02-2010, 04:41 PM
 
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Yet another fat chick thread.
Why would a GAY MAN care?
PS I have been overweight since I was a teen and I live(d) a full life. Anyone can make themselves a victim of life. Many plus size women have admirers and get married....
 
Old 01-02-2010, 04:41 PM
 
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*yawn* The title of this could very well have been about 'over weight people', not just women. I've seen plenty of over weight men complain about superficial women who won't give them the time of day b'c of their weight. And when I was over weight I never had a woe is me attitude and I'm sure I'm not the exception so you'd do well to not generalize people.
 
Old 01-02-2010, 04:43 PM
 
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*yawn* The title of this could very well have been about 'over weight people', not just women. I've seen plenty of over weight men complain about superficial women who won't give them the time of day b'c of their weight. And when I was over weight I never had a woe is me attitude and I'm sure I'm not the exception so you'd do well to not generalize people.
Who said I was generalizing? Before you respond in a thread, it might be a good idea to actually read the thread. I said "many" overweight women, not most.
 
Old 01-02-2010, 04:45 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Who said I was generalizing? Before you respond in a thread, it might be a good idea to actually read the thread. I said "many" overweight women, not most.
I saw what you said. Like someone else asked, why would a gay man care?
 
Old 01-02-2010, 04:47 PM
 
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I saw what you said. Like someone else asked, why would a gay man care?
Exactly. It's not subjective. Gay men like MEN, not women, so it doesn't matter if the chick was the hottest thing on the face of the planet - she still doesn't have what the gay man wants.
 
Old 01-02-2010, 04:48 PM
 
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I saw what you said. Like someone else asked, why would a gay man care?
Simple curiosity, nothing more. I find the whole attitude strange. If I'm not someone's type, I wish them the best and move on. As long as they're nice and respectful about it, no harm's done. Why others feel sorry for themselves and bash people who aren't attracted to them, is something I'll never understand.
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